To have a friend, you must be a friend. You can't expect to receive attention, kindness, and help if you never give any. If you have sown the ingredients for friendship, you will reap friendship. If you have been too occupied, selfish, or thoughtless to care for others, don't expect caring people to come out of the woodwork when you have a need.
It's never too late to start building friendships. If you have a shortage of friends, begin now to develop one or two in depth. Keep your motives straight. Don't plan to start a relationship solely for the purpose of meeting your needs. A genuine peer friendship occurs when you each unselfishly care for the other. Start looking for ways to serve the people when you would like to have as friends. Compliment them often and offer to help them with projects.
Remember that your friend isn't your possession. Your friend may be your richest treasure on earth at the moment, but don't be jealous if he/she has other friends. Proverbs 25:17 warns, "Don't visit your neighbor too often, or you will outwear your welcome!" You need to be with friends, but use common sense about how much to be with them. Have a clear understanding so they can let you know when they’re doing other things. But don’t be afraid to talk frankly about when you really must have their support.
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