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The Intrigue

Lust is like a spider's web, delicately woven and carefully planned, yet designed for only one purpose—to catch its prey.

Lust is very seductive. It plays with our minds. For many people it's not the sexual acting out that is important, it's all of the "tease", the forbidden, "the intrigue". Lust is driven by being on the Internet late at night and not getting caught, or by a secret telephone call, a forbidden rendezvous, or by the ability to have an affair without anyone knowing about it.

But lust is also driven by flirting, those little glances, the extra smile, the moment when you hold the other persons eyes with your stare. The tease, the intrigue, and the secretness are all part of the fuel which drives lust.

So when you decide to stop flirting, stop fantasizing, and stop being sucked in by the intrigue, then you won't have to do as much battle with lust.

Suppose you’re having a backyard barbecue and the coals are too hot. You wouldn’t dump more lighter fluid on the coals. You would sprinkle on water to cool the heat. The same is true with lust. Cool the lust down by looking away from sexual triggers—by stopping the daydreaming. Pour cold water on the fire of lust.

When your barbecue is flaming up it's wrong to tell yourself, “I'll only pour a little starter on the fire.” You’re crazy! The flames will get out of control and you will ruin your cookout.

The same is true of lust! You must not tolerate any lust. You must not feed the fire!!

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