What Are Some Practical Things I Can Do To Develop Friendships?

A. Listen to people--especially for their feelings. Your attentiveness will encourage them to talk. Your expression of interest, and by keeping the conversation focused on them--not on you, will draw people to you.

B. Enable them to fulfill their dreams and ambitions. Even if you are not able to do much directly, you can encourage them, pray for them, and give them hope to go for their dreams.

C. Give stability to your friends. Let them know that you are there when they need you, when they feel lonely, or when everything is coming apart. Let them know you will help.

D. Give them perspective. Help them to see a broader picture than what they might be seeing. What are the other alternatives or options that they may not have seen?

E. Commit yourself to long-term relationships. If you are in your thirties, plan on knowing this person in your forties, fifties, and sixties. Plan on living life together and growing old as friends. Each stage along the way your friend will have changing needs. He/she will become a different person. Your lifelong commitment will provide the needed stability which is so often missing in our fast-paced world.

F. Think of specific areas in which your friend may be struggling. Now take those issues to God in prayer. Ask God to work deeply in your friend's life, to give insight for the future, and to heal anything in the past.

John Powell has said, "We know ourselves as we see ourselves in the eyes of a loving friend." Jesus said, "By this shall all men know that you are my disciples because you love one another." John 13:35


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