You can help to prevent a midlife crisis by refocusing four major areas of your life:
1. Work on your relationships. By midlife most marriages are at the lowest ebb that they ever will be. The marriage has become dull and stale because it has been ignored. Too many pressures at work or too many activities with the kids can crowd out time to understand each other and to build a warm marriage relationship. Work at it! A strong marriage will help prevent a midlife crisis.
Deepen your relationships with other friends. Get involved in a small study and sharing group that is not built on political or social advancement, but because you care for each other. Most people by midlife have very few true friends. Correct the problem.
2. Rethink your career direction. Who has God created you to be? What are your gifts and talents? Are these being used in your career and does your career have a dimension of ministering to or improving other people's lives? Doing something for other people is going to become increasingly important as you age. You will want to leave something behind you when you die. Does your career invest your time and energy in the lives of other people?
Perhaps now is the time to think about working in line with your gifts and abilities rather than just working for money or ego. Possibly your midlife crisis will give you the courage to rethink your career and maybe--just maybe--do what you've always wanted to do.
3. Reexamine your values. The young adult asks, "What am I going to do?" The midlife adult needs to ask the question, "Why am I doing this?"
You have three major resources: dollars, time, and energy. Ask yourself, "How am I going to use these assets for the rest of my years?" "Why do I choose to use them in that way?" Go through your typical day, asking over and over again about every detail of the day, "Why am I doing this? Is this really important to me?"
Do all the pieces of your life--clothes--house--car--friends--really fit your values? Ask "Am I spending my dollars, time, and energy in the way I really want to spend them?" "Am I actually in line with the way God has created me as a special, unique person?"
4. Seek emotional stability. If you are a Christian, follow Christ, even though He may seem distant at some times. You feel distant because you are in crisis now. Keep on talking to God and keep on reading His Word. Read through the Psalms and let God slowly massage your heart. He really does care for you.
In case you've never given your life to God, the Bible says if you will open up your life, God will come in and fellowship with you. (See our article How to Connect with god)
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