We experience grief for many different reasons such as the loss of a loved one, the loss of productive employment, the loss of a dream, or the loss of health. Anytime we have a significant loss in our life, reactions get birthed inside us that are unpredictable, unexpected and, at times, unexplainable.
We go through this because we were not originally designed with the ability to suffer loss. When God created Adam and Eve, they were going to live forever. They were not going to encounter death, personal destruction or painful disasters. Then sin became part of their life experience and loss became a consistent companion!
Since we are not designed for it, emotions rise up inside us until they reach a pressure point and must be released. This is what grief does. We cry in response to almost any stimulus. We laugh louder than we ought to at certain stories or comments. We get momentarily angry. We feel a black sadness in our souls that makes us worry about ourselves. We are confused because all these states are temporary. About the time we think we are falling apart, the episode is over and we seem to feel better for a little while. There is nothing wrong with us, we are simply grieving.
Every cycle of grief proclaims that the person, opportunity, or provision that was lost had meaning. It was important to your life and deserves a response. One day, however, you wake up and the grieving subsides. Your focus returns, your sense of purpose comes back to life and you get into motion.
2 Samuel 2 opens up with these words, “In the course of time, David inquired of the LORD. â€˜Shall I go up to one of the towns of Judah?’” We don’t know how long David actually grieved, but he did grieve, and then jumped back into life.
If you have suffered a loss in the past year, be assured that “in the course of time,” you will regain your perspective and find the next steps to take. Give yourself time to grieve when it is appropriate. Then give yourself freedom to kick back into gear when the time is right.