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Marriage Restoration after 5+ years of Divorce

Hello fellow standers,  

I have been lax in getting out this message of encouragement because I wanted to see if it was real.     Well, I know now that this is truly happening so here goes!  

My husband left me and divorced me 5 years ago. During the past five years, he's had very limited contact with me, our grown children and grandchildren.   The last couple of years, he had been living quite some distance away, with another woman and her teenage children.    

I was hopeful that someday he would wake up and return to us but from all outward appearances, it just didn't seem like that would ever happen.   I thought that he had been so happy these past 5 1/2 years, especially, the last 2 1/2 living with this “wonderful new woman”.  

Well, I couldn't have been more wrong!   A few months ago he called to tell us that he breaking up with the other woman and that he would be moving back to town.   Although at the time he wasn't thinking about coming back to me, we very slowly started up a friendly relationship again which has led to a recommitment to our marriage.

He has told me why he left, that there were things I did or didn't do that had bothered him all of the 28 years that we were married but he never let me know.   He also said that he left looking for something outside of himself when he should have been searching inward.   He said that he should have never left!   Wow, I had been waiting so long to hear those words!!!  

Although he is moving in the right direction, we are still facing an uphill road towards total restoration.   There are many issues to work through but we have marriage counseling scheduled which will hopefully help us towards that goal.  

I just wanted to let you know that it can and does happen!   Don't ever give up!   Even though I don't get to the chat room much anymore or even have time to check all of the wonderful e-mails you all send out, I wanted to thank you for your prayers and support, especially during the early years when there didn't seem to be any light at the end of the tunnel.   Thank you, thank you, thank you!  

God bless you all,