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Facilitator Tidbits & Encouragement

Our Chat Room Facilitators are blessed with the Spiritual Gift of "Encouragement".

They always have words of wisdom and inspiring scriptures  to share.

Enjoy these "Tidbits" and visit often for new blessings.

Poem sent in by Facilitator Hannah

It's In The Valleys I Grow

By:   Jane Eggleston, Virginia

Sometimes life seems hard to bear,
Full of sorrow, trouble and woe
It's then I have to remember
That it's in the valleys I grow.

If I always stayed on the mountain top
And never experienced pain,
I would never appreciate God's love
And would be living in vain.

I have so much to learn
And my growth is very slow,
Sometimes I need the mountain tops,
But it's in the valleys I grow.

I do not always understand
Why things happen as they do,
But I can be very sure that
My Lord will see me through.

My little valleys are nothing
When I picture Christ on the cross
He went through the valley of death;
His victory was Satan's loss.

Forgive me Lord, for complaining
When I'm feeling so very low.
Just give me a gentle reminder
That it's in the valleys I grow.

Continue to strengthen me, Lord.
And use my life each day
To share your love with others
And help them find their way.

Thank you for valleys, Lord
For this one thing I know
The mountain tops are glorious
But it's in the valleys I grow!

"It pushed negative thoughts out of my head" from "NoWorries"

I found this to be so encouraging and it has been a terrific thought to help me stay positive and have a totally different mind set about my circumstances and I pray that this may also help and encourage you all.
This might have been from the Jimmy Evans CD's, "How To Think When Life Stinks", that I often recommend.   Anyways, he was talking about Jesus on the Friday that He was crucified and how awful, terrible, etc. that it just had to be for Him that none of us can ever even come close to imagining the pain.  
The pain and agony and the amount of blood lose before He was even nailed to the cross would probably have killed any of us but Jesus didn't focus on  His circumstances  and what was happening to Him on that Friday.   He knew that no matter what His Father was with Him and that He would be OK because Sunday was coming and He would be in heaven with His Father and His purpose for God's Glory was, "Finished".
Our circumstances / situations are that Friday (unfortunately we have many).   But we should not be concentrating or focusing on the Friday, rather looking forward to the Sunday, as Jesus did.   Jesus knew, and so do we, that "God will never leave us nor forsake us".
The other day, when I needed to capture a negative thought, and had to tell myself and remind myself that this is Friday (our circumstances), but God will never leave me nor forsake me, and SUNDAY (reaching the other side of this journey) will come in God's timing."   It pushed those negative thoughts from the enemy right out of my head.  
By changing my way of thinking about my situation, the Lord has added another level of peace onto the peace and contentment that He has already given me.
I pray that this thought can also comfort, bring hope, and eveb more faith, in the unseen promise that is there for all of us.   God Bless all of you.
Hugs & Blessings,

Being a Chistian is like being a pumpkin. Sent in by Facilitator, "Cricket"

Being a Christian is like being a pumpkin. God lifts you up, takes you in, and washes all the dirt off of you. He opens you up, touches you deep inside and scoops out all the yucky stuff-- including the seeds of doubt, hate, greed, etc. Then He carves you a new smiling face and puts His light inside you to shine for the world to see.

Getting the most out of your trials....(shared by Brin)

A friend shared this thought-provoking  article  with me..... Brin

Out of the most severe trial, their overflowing joy and their extreme poverty welled up in rich generosity. —2 Corinthians 8:2  

So how do you dignify a trial? Below are eight steps to getting the most out of your trials

  1. Welcome it.  Welcome the trial as you would welcome the Holy Spirit, for it is the Holy Spirit who, with the Father and the Son, is behind the whole ordeal. And in this case, He comes with one purpose: for your own good.
  2. Don't panic.  Satan's immediate goal when he is given permission to attack is to get you to panic. This is why he is compared to a roaring lion (1 Pet. 5:8). The reason for the roar is to intimidate and cause fear and panic to make you think you are defeated even before anything has had a chance to happen.
  3. See the trial as a compliment to you from God Himself.  This is important. The kind of trial He has allowed you to have is very possibly one that could not be granted to others around you. God gave this trial to you for one reason: you are up to it.
  4. Never forget that God allowed it.  Satan will want you to focus on yourself, feel self-pity, and blame someone else for it. But realize that this trial has passed through God's filtering process.
  5. Know that there is a purpose in it.  There is an intelligent, meaningful reason God allowed it. It is to refine you, teach you a lesson, equip you better, make you more sensitive, teach you self-control, and help you guard your tongue. In other words, to make you more like Jesus.
  6. Don't try to end it.  Don't try to get out of anything prematurely. God will allow it to last as long as it is supposed to last.
  7. Don't grumble.  It is a sobering thought that God puts grumbling alongside idolatry and sexual sin in the list of evil deeds that brought His wrath down on ancient Israel (1 Cor. 10:1-12).
  8. Know that God wants you to pass the test far more than you do.  There are two reasons for this. First, He loves us so much and rejoices to see us experience pure joy. Second, it brings glory to Him when we dignify the trial by cheerfully enduring it.

Luke 10:41-42 From "Joey"

Hi everyone,
I was reading my Bible at lunch and I know I've read this before and thought this when I've  read this before but after Sunday's Chat Room I feel it'd be good to share.   Jesus' words are in red.   I've added my own comments in the parenthesis.
Luke 10:41-42
But the Lord said to her, "My dear Martha, you are so upset  over all the details!  (B through Y;  what spouses and the Other Women are doing)  There is  only one thing worth being concerned about.  (It is not our spouses! But Jesus) Mary has  discovered it and I won't take it  away from her".
Jesus is everything we need, question is all you  going to believe that and let go of your spouse and let God have them. Only  then can God do what needs to be done in us when we are willing to fulfill His will. He only desires the best for us and He is worthy of our trust. He is faithful to His promises and His timing however long that may be, is always right on time.
Just  felt some people needed to read this and save themselves a lot of unnecessary pain. If you didn't understand the B through Y part, A is the beginning of this journey and Z is the promised end that God has for each of us, B through Y is our walk with the Lord during the journey.

Love, "Joey" (Chat Name)

Four things you can't Recover, from "NoWorries"

Four things you can't recover:

The stone..........after the throw.

The word.........after it's said.

The occasion.......after it's missed.

The time .........after it's gone.

"Be kinder than necessary, for everyone you meet is fighting some kind of battle."

God Promises from "Surety"

God promises to renew the strength of those who wait on him.

Isaiah 40:31 "But they that wait upon the LORD shall renew their strength; they shall mount up with wings as eagles; they shall run, and not be weary; and they shall walk, and not faint."

True Love from "Jo"

     TRUE LOVE...

     I think there are a lot of people who think they are (or were) in
     love who don't have a clue as to what love really is.   And the result
     is that many marriages are suffering.   You hear married couples say,
     "We're just not in love anymore."   And I know right away what kind of
     "love" they had when they got married.

     The Greeks had several different words for "love."   Three are
     especially important in marriages.   First, there was "eros", the word
     used to describe sexual attraction.   It's important in marriages, but
     if that's the only kind of love a couple has, their love will only
     last until they find others more attractive (and that day will come).   
     What some mean when they say , "I don't love you anymore" is "I'm not
     attracted to you anymore."

     Second, there was "phileo," a friendship love.   This is the kind
     of love that says, "I enjoy being around you and talking to you and
     doing things with you."   It is very important in a marriage, but again,
     if it is the only kind of love there is, the love will last only until
     you find someone else you enjoy talking to and doing things with.   What
     most mean when they say, "I don't love you anymore" is "I don't enjoy
     being around you anymore."

     The Bible, however, uses the word "agape" as the foundational love.
     It is a love of commitment, a love that says, "I'll be here for you
     regardless of what happens."   It is the love that truly stays in there
     "for better or for worse."   It is the kind of love that will love even
     when others are unlovable.

     Make sure that your marriages (and other personal relationships)
     are grounded in "agape" -- true love!

     "But above all these things put on love, which is the bond of
     perfection." (Col. 3:14)

     Read 1 Corinthians 13:4-8

Ten Reasons To Stand For Your Marriage (Rejoice Ministries) from "Jo"

       10) Privilege of praying for your spouse.

         9) Your spouse will one day thank you for your faithfulness.

         8) Many will come to know Christ through your stand.

         7) Future generations will be spared the curse of divorce.

         6) Your actions are witnessing to a fallen world.

         5) God will use you as a blessing to your spouse and family.

         4) Your stand demonstrates the unconditional love of Christ.

         3) You vowed "until death separates" - be a man/woman of your word.

         2) Your children need both of their parents.

       And the Number One reason to stand for the healing of your marriage
         1) God's Word commands it!

         "Therefore what God has joined together, let man not separate."
                                                                                     Matthew 19:6
         "'I hate divorce,' says the Lord."         Malachi 2:16
       Rejoice Marriage Ministries