6:45 Pelagius: Jim @ 6:44, yes, soon. what I mean is, HE said it...he doesn't know why he thinks he loves her more...
6:53 Dr. Jim Conway [Administrator]: Pelagius: that's male code language for either I feel embarrassed to tell you, or I’m not sure if I did tell you - that you would change. For example; husbands will tell me they will never tell their wives they are too fat - they don't want to go through all the grief that would cause. They also generally will never tell you that you are controlling, or that you're not sexually spontaneous enough. Most men feel that if they say that, it will only stir up a giant argument, and they don't want to face the argument.
6:30 faithfull: Jim, what do you tell people when they ask about your h and should we continue to wear our wedding ring.
6:34 Jim CONWAY [Administrator]: faithfull: yes, keep wearing your wedding ring if you're legally married.
6:18 MAS: Jim: 6:15: He has many complaints about me. He says I did not display any affection towards him and seemed angry all the time. If I really loved him, why didn't I show it and why didn't I tell him?
6:21 Dr. Jim Conway [Administrator]: MAS: Most people get married in the first place because they meet each other's needs. People stay together as they continue to meet each other's changing needs. Evidentially, your husband had a growing need for affection, and at the same time he saw you as an angry person -- these are specific areas which could be helped with counseling.
6:17 cheyanne: Jim, oh good one- main reason because I’m exhausted---- and I might be confused...I want to do what God wants -- does that make sense.... so if they don’t contradict--- help me understand the difference
6:30 Dr. Jim Conway [Administrator]: cheyanne: Sometimes when we are exhausted, we find ourselves focusing on things that may be small or negative. I would strongly urge you to focus on getting yourself physically stabilized. Try walking more often, getting out in the sunlight, listening to quiet worship music, doing positive things that nourish you, and catch up on your rest -- for me sometimes it's as simple as going outside the office and looking at some of the flowers.
6:39 Athena: He won't talk about OW or apologize or get checked for VD or anything
6:43 Dr. Jim Conway [Administrator]: Athena: don't worry about your husband not talking about the ow. Focus on building your own new marriage relationship. Remember that men are not verbal. He will express his feelings by his actions toward you.
6:21 MJ 2: Jim: I think my h is depressed. How long should I let it go before suggesting he go to the Dr. I’m sure he doesn't see it. He has been dealing w/MLC for 4 yrs and was doing better until laid off 6 months ago.
6:22 Dr. Jim Conway [Administrator]: MJ 2: Because he has recently had a big change in his work situation, this would be a good time suggest to him that he have a good physical exam so that he is emotionally and physically ready for the new job.