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March 20, 2019 / Wednesday Chat with Bill

Bill: Little Magpie: In the midst of your own struggles, I am always amazed at how aware you are of what is happening in other's lives. Your comment about Swan's computer is one more example of the gift God gave you of noticing what is going on.

Little Magpie: Bill - I feel so worthless and unnecessary. I keep trying to forge a verbally satisfactory relationship with spouse and friendships. It is so hard. I don't know if I will ever get the knack.

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March 20, 2019 / Wednesday Chat with Bill

Brin: Hi Bill, How are you doing?

Bill: Hello Brin. I am doing well, and you?

Brin: I'm doing ok but do have a bad headache. Might be coming down with something. H is complaining about the same thing too.

Bill: Brin: I am so sorry. "Coming down with something" is never fun!

Brin: Bill Thanks. I didn't get much further with the Bible verse assignment since I sent you the list. Been working late this week. I think I'm burned out and need to take more time out.

Bill: Brin: I will be looking at your verse list tomorrow. The key is simply to keep moving forward. The pace is not as important as motion. This is a no-guilt assignment that can easily absorb breaks in the action.

Swan: Hi Bill & Brin, sorry I'm late; I have been having trouble with my computer tonight.

Brin: Bill, Good to know that the pace isn't important even though I do want to get the letter done. I did not end up calling my Mum for/on her birthday. The time zone made it hard but I also didn't/don't feel strong enough to call.

Brin: Bill, I have been religiously reading aloud the Doctrinal Affirmation every morning! Thank you! I really like it! I definitely have been feeling the enemy at work in my life this past week or so. It feels good to have the affirmation/prayer under my belt.

Bill: Brin: There may actually be added value in taking strategic delays. Part of your challenge is dealing with expectations that trained you to gain approval through productivity. Learning to accept God's free approval that then leads to naturally motivated production is an important part of the process.

Bill: Brin: Well done on the Doctrinal Affirmation. I have concluded that spiritual warfare at a personal level is actually one of the spiritual disciplines. Too often, it is presented as something experts do while the "average" believer avoids it. Instead, I think we all ought to become skilled at keeping spiritual footholds closed by strategic declarations. Proud of you!

Swan: Brin - when my grandson was younger, he came home from school one day and asked me, "grandma how do you eat an elephant?" I had heard the riddle before, but played along and asked him how. His response was, "one bite at a time". Often when we are working on tasks, it is more important to find our bite size and just do it one bite at a time.

Brin: Bill - I understand what you said about the value in strategic delays. I agree. It's true about me gaining approval through productivity. I am seeing that more and more clearly. This is half the battle - seeing this and responding accordingly.

Bill: Brin: I think it is one of the trickier truths to learn. God never defines us by our productivity and yet he made us to be productive. Learning to base our identity in His love for us then accepting that we are going to accomplish good works because the Holy Spirit lives in us seems to go against our instincts.

Brin: Bill - thanks about the Doctrinal Affirmation. I had a weird encounter this morning at the Immigration office. The immigration officer who served me was behaving strange. One moment she was friendly, next moment she was giving me a lecture about the need to relax etc. I must have looked stressed about my appointment. The camera and fingerprinting machine chose to not work this morning. Anyway, she would talk to me and then when I walk up to the counter, she would tell me off saying she didn't call me yet. I ended up telling her that I was confused then walked back to my chair. But I prayed for the evil spirits to leave and for the Holy Spirit to enter the place, and that God would fix the machine. Otherwise I would have to go out to Chicago downtown on yet another day off. I think my prayer worked, because the machine started to work and finally was able to get out of the place with my stamp in my passport for extending my Green card. The lady was really happy when I thanked her with a nice big smile. She commented that she got me to smile and she smiled.

Bill: Brin: It is fun to hear that God responded in the midst of this pursuit. I am confident God works this way and our prayers make a difference in the atmosphere around us. Well done!

Brin: Bill, I was also able to see that she possibly was reacting because of her own issues when she saw I was stressed. I also couldn't understand why she worked there. She might have been in her early 70's and her hair went all the way to past her knees, tucked under her clothes.

Brin: Bill, yes, I am glad I remembered to pray. During my solitude a couple weeks ago, I was encouraged to pray breath prayers, which have been helpful too.

Brin: Bill - "...solitude retreat ..."

Bill: Brin: It sounds like God gave you keen insight. It is kind of nice to see someone in their 70's working. It seems to me we often retire people sooner than their abilities warrant.

Bill: Brin: It is encouraging to see you taking intentional steps to grow and find strength.

Brin: Bill, thank you!

Bill: Hi Little Magpie

Brin: Hi Little Magpie, How are you doing?

Brin: Bill, I think my H lost his job today or is about to lose his job. He only started there about 6 weeks ago. He came home for lunch and then came home early. He said he didn't want to talk about it when I asked why he was home so early.

Bill: Brin: Ugh. Jesus, please give Brin's H grace to focus. Help him either move into a new gear at his current job or find another job quickly. Focus his talent so that he looks forward to work and finds motivation to excel in all areas of his life.

Brin: Bill: Amen & Amen. Thank you!

Brin: Bill, Are you and Pam almost done with travel this month?

Bill: Brin: Kind of. I fly to So Cal tomorrow then to Saskatoon on Friday. This tour ends on Monday then we will have a few weekend commitments over the next month. This has definitely been our busiest month on the road in a while.

Brin: Bill, That's quite a bit! Are your speaking engagements mostly about your Men are Waffles book or something else?

Bill: Brin: It varies. I have a couple of men's events. Pam has a couple of women's events. We speak on Men Are Like Waffles, Women Are Like Spaghetti quite a bit. We also have a weekend presentation called "The Love-Wise Weekend" which shows people how to add God's wisdom to their vital relationships. Lots of fun.

Brin: Bill, I recently started reading the book again. I was at the 2010 MLD retreat when you and Pam talked about the book. I am sure the Love-Wise presentation would be very good too.

Bill: Brin: Thanks for the encouragement. We have been amazed at how God has worked in our life. Having come from chaotic backgrounds that include mental illness, alcoholism, abuse, irrational behavior and lots of broken relationships, we are thrilled that God has given us a marriage worth talking about. We are, therefore, highly motivated to keep sharing with others what we know works.

Little Magpie: All - Hello. Brin, I hope that you feel better soon. Prayers for your H.

Brin: Bill, its wonderful how it all turned out for you both and how you can help others from your experience!

Brin: Little Magpie, Thank you!

Little Magpie: Bill - Blessings on your speaking. May God touch lives with the words you share.

Bill: Brin: I feel privileged. I know that most of the work is done by the Holy Spirit in giving people soft hearts and a holy desperation to make changes in their lives. We certainly cannot imitate that but it is fun to provide guidance when these elements are in place.

Brin: Bill, Your attitude encourages me. All, I'm going to sign off. Need to get to the gym for a bit tonight.

Brin: Bill - thanks for your encouragement and advice tonight!

Bill: Little Magpie: Thank you. So far we have seen God move very consistently this month. Lots of people have shared specific encouragement they have received.

Bill: Brin: Enjoy the workout.

Brin: All, good night! and have a great rest of the week.

Bill: Little Magpie: So, how are things?

Little Magpie: Bill - rough. Trying to keep my head above water, but I feel like I'm going under

Bill: Little Magpie: I am sorry to hear. Is this because of heavy responsibility?

Little Magpie: Bill - I don't know. H is on L&I and is supposed to be off his foot. He partially tore a muscle in his right calf muscle. Wedding for D is just over 3 months away. Communication is such hard work. We are now short two people at work that they are trying to hire for, depressed, feel worthless and without a purpose

Little Magpie: Bill - H working 9 hours days on said torn muscle leg that is in a brace

Little Magpie: Swan- hope your computer issues clear up.

Bill: Little Magpie: That is a lot going on. 3 months until wedding - wow, exciting but lots to prepare for and it will be here before any of you know it. Do your best to enjoy the journey. Weddings are so stressful but they create memories that linger forever. I have discovered that the part that "goes wrong" (doesn't work out the way it was planned) ends up being the part that gets remembered. I will be praying for H and for your work to find the right people. Sounds like a good time to read about Joseph or Moses who had to spend long periods of time in what seemed like worthless work. Eventually, it became the stage on which God did some of his best work.

Swan: Little Magpie - thanks, I have been here, but am not showing up and have to refresh constantly to see what new text has been posted.

Little Magpie: Bill - and a dear friend died shockingly unexpected

Bill: Little Magpie: In the midst of your own struggles, I am always amazed at how aware you are of what is happening in other's lives. Your comment about Swan's computer is one more example of the gift God gave you of noticing what is going on.

Swan: I am going to head out, everyone have a great week and see you next Wednesday,

Little Magpie: Bill - I feel so worthless and unnecessary. I keep trying to forge a verbally satisfactory relationship with spouse and friendships. It is so hard. I don't know if I will ever get the knack

Bill: Little Magpie: Jesus, please show LM with your love and peace. Help her giftedness find freedom to operate and take the pressure off her relationships. Show her how to balance sensing what is going on with everyone in the room with a casual acceptance of those she cares about. Help her see the value and skill you have placed in her.

Little Magpie: Bill - keep trying to help my d but she doesn't seem to want it. I think she's conflicted between a traditional religious ceremony and her supposed unbelief

Bill: Little Magpie: I encourage you to serve your D and help her plan the ceremony she wants. If I were you, I would say to her, "If you want any input, I am happy to give my opinion, but I am here to help you plan the day you want." It will probably feel you are giving in at first but in the long run, it will help you two bonds in a way only a mom and daughter can.

Bill: Little Magpie: I am sorry I need to run. We'll connect here next week.

Little Magpie: Bill and Swan - Have a nice week.

Little Magpie: Bill - Thank you

Little Magpie: All - Good night

Bill: Little Magpie: In the midst of your own struggles, I am always amazed at how aware you are of what is happening in other's lives. Your comment about Swan's computer is one more example of the gift God gave you of noticing what is going on.

Little Magpie: Bill - I feel so worthless and unnecessary. I keep trying to forge a verbally satisfactory relationship with spouse and friendships. It is so hard. I don't know if I will ever get the knack.

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