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September 05, 2018 / Wednesday Chat with Bill

Little Magpie: Bill - I have been praying and trying to take my mind captive. I had to excuse myself from a meeting because the anxiety was getting to me as they were talking about accidents and near accidents. I took a few moments to pray and cry a little.

Bill: All: Another tool God has given us is grieving. Whenever we lose (whether it is a loved one, a cherished opportunity, valued asset or dream of the heart) we get flooded with emotions. Grieving is the process of releasing the emotional energy that builds up through crying, laughing, sadness, anger, etc. The key to grieving is to give permission to let the emotions out. The ancient Jews were much better at this than we are in the modern west. They used to sit in ashes, tear their clothes, weep and wail. They didn't do it forever but they did it long enough to release the emotions that go along with loss (because God didn't originally design us to lose).

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September 05, 2018 / Wednesday Chat with Bill

Bill: Good evening everyone

Little Magpie: All- hello

Swan: Hi Bill and Little Magpie - Hope you all have had a good and productive week

Bill: Swan: So far so good. Pam and I begin our "go time" this week and will be very busy with events until Thanksgiving.

Swan: Bill - Sounds like you will be extremely busy, but for me I prefer busy, hope you will also get some down rest time so you can rejuvenate between events.

Bill: Swan: Thanks for that. The schedule is actually pretty good this fall. Steady but I get to come home most weeks and regroup. Plus we have a new grandson on the way and we will be able to stop and see him.

Bill: LM: Are you holding up okay?

Little Magpie: Swan- busy trying to get calm and find peace. My car accident PTSD is on overdrive as H was hit by an uninsured motorist who ran a red. H was in my vehicle. I haven't been able to see it. I have been blocking my vision when I walk by

Little Magpie: Bill my message above.

Swan: Bill - A new baby - Congrats! I love being a grandma even though my grandson is almost an adult, he will be 17 years old the first of October. I can still vision his sweet little face, big eyes and adorable smile, always asking questions and wanting to learn. Now he is taller than me, his face is very adult (hair and all), his voice is getting deeper these past couple months, oh and he is driving, going on dates, will graduate high school this year. No more baby stuff, but I still adore him and love being grandma.

Little Magpie: Bill - congrats on your new grandson! He will be a great blessing

Swan: Little Magpie - is it fixable? If not, I would say to have it scrapped soon so you don't have to have that sight in your vision daily. If it can be fixed, maybe your insurance company can step up the process if you explain it is causing you emotional stress.

Swan: Little Magpie - How is your husband? I pray he didn't get injured.

Swan: Bill - Little Magpie has had a lot of stressful things going on lately, do you have any suggestions for ways she might be able to redirect some of that stress and help her be more centered spiritually to get her out of the depression and fear she is going through?

Little Magpie: Swan- H took it to the shop the Insurance Company wanted, they checked it out and sent info to the adjuster. They said they couldn't do anything until Monday. We will more than likely hear from them tomorrow

Little Magpie: Swan- H is okay.

Little Magpie: Swan- interesting thing. Saturday, my counselor said that I am a heart attack waiting to happen because of all my stuff

Bill: Swan and LM: Sorry about disappearing for a while. My internet has been sporadic and despite numerous calls to the cable company, it persists. Good to be back.

Bill: Swan and LM: I have been contemplating about "surprises" in life since I heard the news about the accident. It seems to be the year! Swan, I appreciate your question and I will be giving input in a series of messages.

Swan: Little Magpie - the first day my son was able to drive, we got t-boned by a driver that ran the red light, his truck hit just behind me and totaled our vehicle. Fortunately our vehicle was towed to a lot, the adjusted got out to see it quickly and certified it as totaled. I did need to go get our stuff from the vehicle, but just could not make myself got out there, my husband went and when he got home, he gave me a big hug and said from the appearance of the vehicle we are lucky I am alive and blessed that I wasn't injured more seriously. My son was banged up a little, but not really injured, I had some body injuries, but healed within a few weeks. Later I saw pictures the insurance company had taken and it was a true God protection moment.

Swan: Bill - sorry about the internet issues, I have been fortunate at home, but at work the past couple weeks we are constantly losing our access, which is causing issues with customer sales. I love technical advances, but sometimes!!

Bill: All: Persistent fears are easy to cultivate because of the world we live in. Things don't work the way they are supposed to which gives us plenty of opportunity to gather evidence of how bad things can be. This doesn't mean we are helpless, however. God has given us tools to help (although none of them are magical and instantaneous. All: the first tool is prayer. Philippians 4:6-7 states, "Do not be anxious about anything, but in every situation, by prayer and petition, with thanksgiving, present your requests to God. 7 And the peace of God, which transcends all understanding, will guard your hearts and your minds in Christ Jesus." This is not a casual, simplistic prayer, however. This is the kind of prayer that is determined to focus on God with a heartfelt goal of finding his peace. The premiere example is Peter walking on the water in Matthew 14. When Peter's focus was intently on Jesus, he had unexplainable peace and ability. When his focus shifted to his circumstances, he quickly became overwhelmed. notice in verse 7 that the peace that guards our hearts and minds is described as "transcending all comprehension," which means it is something God gives us, not something we figure out on our own.

Little Magpie: All - I am thankful that H wasn't hurt. If it wasn't for the fact that I have been in so many accidents and the one that this vehicle replaced was my worst one mentally and it totaled my 2 year old car. It was my first brand new car - only 7 miles on it when we got it. I saw the accident in a premonition a few days before it happened. I tried to avoid it but anyway that is why I take this so hard. I know God is bigger than this and HE has control but it is hard to be grounded. I look forward to reading your advice Bill.

Bill: All: The next tool is God's love. The greatest force for overcoming fear in our lives is the love of God. None of us can control all the factors that affect our lives and we certainly cannot predict what others may do that has the potential to interrupt our lives. In the midst of all this, we have a God who will never leave us nor forsake us. We all want God to be a deliverer (which he will eventually do) but God doesn't promise to keep us from difficulty. Instead, He promises to be with us in all the ups and downs of life. Romans 8:31-39 is probably the strongest statement of this in God's word. It begins with a very challenging list of possible circumstances we might face and ends with a strong statement that nothing in heaven or on earth can ever separate us from the love of God which is in Christ.

Little Magpie: Bill - I have been praying and trying to take my mind captive. I had to excuse myself from a meeting because the anxiety was getting to me as they were talking about accidents and near accidents. I took a few moments to pray and cry a little.

Swan: Little Magpie - I am sorry you had to excuse yourself from the meeting, however, at least you were aware of the anxiety coming on and knew to remove yourself and pray is healing and calming and sometimes crying helps us to get the anxiety and fears out which is better for us than holding it in.

Bill: All: Another tool God has given us is grieving. Whenever we lose (whether it is a loved one, a cherished opportunity, valued asset or dream of the heart) we get flooded with emotions. Grieving is the process of releasing the emotional energy that builds up through crying, laughing, sadness, anger, etc. The key to grieving is to give permission to let the emotions out. The ancient Jews were much better at this than we are in the modern west. They used to sit in ashes, tear their clothes, weep and wail. They didn't do it forever but they did it long enough to release the emotions that go along with loss (because God didn't originally design us to lose).

Little Magpie: Swan - Thanks. They commented later that they hadn't realized how this had hit me until I responded. Bill: At least I didn't "react" verbally and harsh like my H always accuses me of.

Little Magpie: Bill - I just turned some music on - The After's -- Every Good Thing

Swan: Little Magpie - it appears you were very proactive in this instance and I am proud of you. I understand how being accused of things constantly can mess with our confidence and emotional state. You start out defending yourself, then at times wonder if maybe they are right, then argue with yourself about even considering the accusations, it causes much confusion in us. These are times when putting on praise music, breaking open the Bible and doing as Jesus did and getting away from everyone else to be alone with God and let Him cover our minds with His protection. You cannot control what others think or do, but you can control how you react and that you did.

Bill: All: Little Magpie, you alluded to another tool God has given us to help us face the tough stuff. "We take captive every thought to make it obedient to Christ." (2 Corinthians 10:5). This is a gritty process. It is more than just telling ourselves to think positive thoughts. It is the willingness to realize we are in a battle on this earth where truth and lies are fighting for first place. The process (1) admits that hard things happen, (2) is aware that in every situation there are lies that attempt to take over our thinking and (3) believes there is truth in the midst of every situation that affirms God's goodness and commitment to His people. In the case of an accident, it is appropriate to say, "This happened and it was bad. God still cares about me and my family. God will somehow cause this to work together for good because I know and love God. God is not out to get me. God is not being vindictive. God was with me during the accident, after the accident and He is with me now. Even though this is bigger than me, He is sufficient and He will lead me to a place of strength and peace. I resist any lie that says differently!"

Bill: Little Magpie: You have already done many of the things that help. Don't be too hard on yourself as it takes time to recover from these events. As long as you moving ahead (no matter how slow) you are fine. We all put way too much pressure on ourselves to recover quickly and get back on track before the sun goes down. Life is a challenge and God is big so we work out our faith in an imperfect environment. Progress is much better than perfection!

Little Magpie: All - we are eating comfort food tonight. Chicken breast, mashed potatoes/gravy and stuffing and green beans. At least it isn't a ton of red vines. Bill - I try not to listen to lies but can't help it. My mind has been programmed for a long time to listen.

Swan: We are having similar, except meatloaf instead of chicken. Have a great week and nice family dinner, see you next week.

Swan: Night all

Little Magpie: Swan - It's just H and I most nights. Have a good night Swan

Bill: Little Magpie: Congrats on the comfort food - seems appropriate tonight. Don't be too hard on yourself for "listening to lies." They are constantly swirling in this world. The key is to get to a place where you challenge them and work on taking them captive. It is a lifelong journey.

Bill: All: See you next week.

Little Magpie: All - Thank You!! Thankful for this lifeline.

Little Magpie: All - Nite

Little Magpie: Bill - I have been praying and trying to take my mind captive. I had to excuse myself from a meeting because the anxiety was getting to me as they were talking about accidents and near accidents. I took a few moments to pray and cry a little.

Bill: All: Another tool God has given us is grieving. Whenever we lose (whether it is a loved one, a cherished opportunity, valued asset or dream of the heart) we get flooded with emotions. Grieving is the process of releasing the emotional energy that builds up through crying, laughing, sadness, anger, etc. The key to grieving is to give permission to let the emotions out. The ancient Jews were much better at this than we are in the modern west. They used to sit in ashes, tear their clothes, weep and wail. They didn't do it forever but they did it long enough to release the emotions that go along with loss (because God didn't originally design us to lose).

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