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April 26, 2017 / Wednesday Chat with Bill

Little Magpie: Bill - Do you have any tips to help me when I awaken with anxiety?

Bill: Little Magpie: Anxiety. In this context I am going to oversimplify it just to help gain perspective. In simplest terms there are three components that create these moments of anxiety: The first is spiritual in nature. Demonic forces will take advantage of vulnerable moments to assault us with lies that seem so real they are hard to deny. Speaking God's word out loud helps with this one.

Bill: Anxiety #2: A perceived fear goes active. We may be afraid of physical harm, emotional harm, financial, relational harm, etc. Whatever the source of the fear, it creates an environment that doesn't seem safe. Some expression of love tends to help here (hug from a loved one, loving words from God, the Bible, radio or TV, a distraction that gets us to focus on the good side of life rather than the scary side of life).

Bill: Anxiety #3: Physiological. Whenever we feel things are unsafe, the fight or flight syndrome goes active, floods our bloodstream with adrenaline causing our muscles to tense and our nerve endings to become more sensitive. Our bodies do this to give us energy and strength to either fight or run away. When there is nothing to fight, anxiety takes over. For this side effect, physical activity is about the only thing that uses up the adrenaline and calms us down physically.

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April 26, 2017 / Wednesday Chat with Bill

Little Magpie: Hello Swan

Little Magpie: Hello Bill

Swan: Hi Little Magpie - Hope all is well with you

Little Magpie: Swan - Thank you. Bill and Swan - How was your week?

Little Magpie: Swan - I do have a lot of anxiety and it has been waking me up at night. I try to listen to a happy broadcast to fall asleep to. I mean to re-fall asleep to.

Bill: Good evening. A little bit of a strange night for me. I am on Papa duty so the kids may cooperate or they may do what kids do! SO far so good.

Little Magpie: Bill - that sounds like an enjoyable thing to do. My youngest is 18 tomorrow.

Bill: Little Magpie: Interesting word you chose "enjoyable." I have been watching them for three days so it has been enjoyable, stressful, aggravating, hilarious and memorable. It is so inefficient compared to the adult schedule I have gotten used to.

Little Magpie: Bill - It is wonderful that you have the opportunity to make these memories with your grandchildren

Bill: Little Magpie: I agree. It is all very fascinating to me because I never knew my grandparents, uncles, aunts, cousins, etc. Every experience with extended family is a new discovery for me.

Little Magpie: Bill - What is a good way or is it possible to have a "good way" to share a podcast that my H should hear about anger and putting it away by using healthy tools?

Bill: Little Magpie: Happy birthday to your youngest. Hard to believe they are all growing up!

Little Magpie: All - My kids used to spend extended time with their grandparents when they were younger. Grandparents lived on a farm and would take them for three to four weeks each (separate) during the summer months.

Little Magpie: All - So that was a good chance for them to get to know their grandparents.

Little Magpie: Bill - Do you have any tips to help me when I awaken with anxiety?

Bill: All: great to hear about the connection between the generations. It is remarkable to me how different my influence is as a grandpa than it was as a dad. They are both remarkable valuable but very different.

Little Magpie: Bill - I will ask you about anxiety tips as well.

Swan: Bill - I only have one grandchild and he is 15 years old, so not much stress with him. When he was younger, only being one little guy he could wear me out when we had extended visits, I am impressed that you are on day three and keeping up well with a group.

Bill: Swan: The group attack can be daunting but it can also be helpful as the older ones keep the younger ones entertained at times. I have slept hard this week, however.

Swan: Little Magpie - Since you are awake, read your Bible. Anxiety is something I don't really experience, but when anything is bothering me and I realize I am fretting I find that getting into the Word helps me to not get sucked into the whatever and remain calm.

Bill: Little Magpie: Anxiety. In this context I am going to oversimplify it just to help gain perspective. In simplest terms there are three components that create these moments of anxiety: The first is spiritual in nature. Demonic forces will take advantage of vulnerable moments to assault us with lies that seem so real they are hard to deny. Speaking God's word out loud helps with this one.

Bill: Anxiety #2: A perceived fear goes active. We may be afraid of physical harm, emotional harm, financial, relational harm, etc. Whatever the source of the fear, it creates an environment that doesn't seem safe. Some expression of love tends to help here (hug from a loved one, loving words from God, the Bible, radio or TV, a distraction that gets us to focus on the good side of life rather than the scary side of life).

Swan: Bill - My grandson is pretty easy, yesterday his mom had to be out of the house by 0430, it I was taking him to school in the morning. When my son is his way to school, everything runs pretty smooth, no fussing, but when it is my daughter in law (most mornings), the alarm goes off many times, he lags in getting ready and midway through I can hear his mom getting on him. I wasn't really sure how it was going to go. His alarm only went off once, he got right in the shower, fixed his own breakfast and lunch, was ready to go almost 10 minutes early. So I am going to say it is a mother son thing because she is the only one he does the frustrating stuff with.

Bill: Anxiety #3: Physiological. Whenever we feel things are unsafe, the fight or flight syndrome goes active, floods our bloodstream with adrenaline causing our muscles to tense and our nerve endings to become more sensitive. Our bodies do this to give us energy and strength to either fight or run away. When there is nothing to fight, anxiety takes over. For this side effect, physical activity is about the only thing that uses up the adrenaline and calms us down physically.

Bill: Swan: That is awesome. Amazing how they respond different to grandma!

Little Magpie: Bill - That makes sense. Thank you. I have been praying in my mind and then playing something like Adventures in Odyssey podcast to calm and get back to sleep. This morning I have been awake since Midnight. I may have snoozed without knowing it but it is awful! I don't know if it is neighborhood noises or what but even the sleep doctor said I seem to be poked awake based on the sleep study. I am doing the c-pap but it isn't really helping too much.

Little Magpie: Bill - How do you pray aloud without awakening your spouse?

Swan: Bill - He is at an age of trying to become himself and not so much mommies little boy. He has always been close with both parents, but my daughter in law has always been more wishy washy with discipline, where my son speaks and stands with what he said the first time. Now if my grandson feels it is unfair, my son will allow him to rebut and will listen, but whatever my grandson is presenting as his rebuke had better be really view changing. My son is a quiet man and was raised very military (sorry I didn't have a positive parental model and the Marine Corps taught me the structure I had, so passed it on). My grandson has always been respectful with me, there have been times when he might ask why I instruct something, I simply explain my reason and usually he agrees. His parents have done well with him, he is a good kid.

Bill: Little Magpie: First, the praying and Adventures in Odyssey are great moves and they appear to be helping. Second, I wouldn't worry about waking up my spouse. The benefits far outweigh any criticism. I also would utilize a prayer that is already written so I didn't have to be too together in the middle of the night. My favorite is the Doctrinal Affirmation in step 2 of The Bondage Breaker.

Bill: Swan: Well done. High respect with high structure is not a bad combination. I am impressed that your son is willing to listen if his son has good reasons. It is also interesting that teenagers (both male and female) will tend to look to their fathers to figure out how to make decisions and solidify convictions. It is unfair to mom but studies have pretty well proved it to be true. The upside is teens that have had a good relationship with mom tend to have very steady confidence and are not shaken by very many things.

Swan: Little Magpie - When my husband and I still lived together, I found myself waking in the night and unable to get back to sleep, even though my husband is a heavy sleeper if I had gotten up turned on a light or started praying out loud, it would have woken him and he would have been grumpy about it. I found that if I got up, went into another room and did reading in the Bible or my prayer book, I would find myself feeling sleepy and when I would go back to bed I would fall right to sleep.

Little Magpie: Bill - I frequently pray "The Lord's Prayer" but I have had times when I forget it or am unable to complete it and then I sing it in my mind and can get thru it that way

Little Magpie: Swan - wouldn't getting up wake you up more?

Swan: Bill - I feel for my daughter in law, my grandson will be getting his driver’s license this year and in her mind that means mother/son time is coming to an end soon, so she had got all kinds of bonding outings planned for the two of them this summer. She sounds so excited when she talks about these events and I can see my grandson being silent for the most part and at some points telling her he isn't interested in whatever she is talking about. I heard my son talking with him one night and told him he is becoming an man, but don't be so quick to try to cut the apron strings because the time when he has an adult relationship and he finds himself missing the fun times with mom will come way too quickly, take advantage of this summer and be a kid for one more year.

Swan: Little Magpie - Not me, lying in bed unable to sleep is more frustrating for me. I guess it might depend on what is done when one gets up, television would not be a good thing because it would increase stimulus, something quiet like reading, listening to praise music, praying doesn't stimuli "awake" for me.

Bill: Swan: I will be praying for the transition. It is a tough time for parents since we are not ready to let go when our kids are ready to go.

Bill: Little Magpie: The reason we read prayers or passages out loud is demons don't read our thoughts. Quiet prayer is great for our spiritual growth and our relationship with God. He hears everything from our words to our thoughts to the longings in our hearts. The enemy can only act on what he hears and sees. When we "resist" him with truth he can hear, he flees from us and finds an easier target.

Swan: Bill - thanks, he is only a sophomore, so they have two more years of him being here and we are not sure if he will do college local or away at this point. They have met with a few college advisors, but with two years it is still up in the air.

Little Magpie: All - My YD is getting her license soon we just need to budget the new driver into the insurance costs. We mailed out an application to a school overseas which has been her dream for many years. She graduates in a little over a month wow. I wish I had planned outings like you DIL. I can relate.

Bill: Swan: The rollercoaster is off and running! On the up side, I found the years from 15-18 to be as rewarding as they were frustrating because my kids started operating at a higher level and there were some amazing conversations as they began putting thoughts together in wise perspective. They could, of course, just as quickly return to the quirky world of puberty but there were great memories built.

Swan: Little Magpie - We have an area here that has museums and attractions, on Tuesdays they offer free entry for residents during the summer, it is actually pretty cool and I think once he realized his mom isn't talking about the two of them doing everything together and there will still be plenty of time for his girlfriend, he will be ok with it.

Bill: Little Magpie: In the midst of all that your struggle with I am amazed at the cool things that happen. Your daughter considering a school overseas is courageous and guaranteed to be a life-changing experience. She seems like a big thinker.

Little Magpie: Bill - she is. She is preparing for Youth Group tonight as they will be celebrating her Birthday. It's the YG from our old church but she grew up with the kids and a couple of them she has known since birth. Bill - she wants to be an English and History Teacher and they have the combined major there. She is primarily interested in Maritime History

Bill: All: Need to sign off. Tee ball practice, baths, make lunches, get everything ready for school and wrestle the kids to bed. Pray for me!

Swan: Night Bill

Little Magpie: Night All

Little Magpie: All - My MIL has surgery next week

Swan: Night Little Magpie - Will keep your MIL in prayer, have a great week.

Little Magpie: Thank you

Little Magpie: Bill - Do you have any tips to help me when I awaken with anxiety?

Bill: Little Magpie: Anxiety. In this context I am going to oversimplify it just to help gain perspective. In simplest terms there are three components that create these moments of anxiety: The first is spiritual in nature. Demonic forces will take advantage of vulnerable moments to assault us with lies that seem so real they are hard to deny. Speaking God's word out loud helps with this one.

Bill: Anxiety #2: A perceived fear goes active. We may be afraid of physical harm, emotional harm, financial, relational harm, etc. Whatever the source of the fear, it creates an environment that doesn't seem safe. Some expression of love tends to help here (hug from a loved one, loving words from God, the Bible, radio or TV, a distraction that gets us to focus on the good side of life rather than the scary side of life).

Bill: Anxiety #3: Physiological. Whenever we feel things are unsafe, the fight or flight syndrome goes active, floods our bloodstream with adrenaline causing our muscles to tense and our nerve endings to become more sensitive. Our bodies do this to give us energy and strength to either fight or run away. When there is nothing to fight, anxiety takes over. For this side effect, physical activity is about the only thing that uses up the adrenaline and calms us down physically.

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