Swan: Bill - There is a part of me that worries that my son will follow his father's path to Midlife Crisis and with him nearing 40 I think that fear is becoming more real for me. He hasn't demonstrated any signs, but then my husband didn't really either, it was almost overnight that the change became noticeable with my husband. I know my son has commented that he lost a lot of respect for his father, but that doesn't mean he won't have his own crisis.
Bill: Swan: I hate to agree but wisdom says he is vulnerable. He is fortunate that you are praying for him. There is, of course, no guarantee that he will experience a MLC just because his father did but we know that spiritual influence travels from generation to generation.
Swan: Beth - Contact would be a nice thing, my husband hasn't been allowed to have contact with me since he married the other woman, she put her foot down on that day and that was that. Even when he was living with her, he would call me or email me from his work address in the middle of the night, he wasn't into the text thing back then. But she found out he was emailing me and from what I heard they fought for days and in the end, he stopped emailing and calling.
Beth: Swan ow tried everything in her power to keep my H from contacting me in first years. She even got him to leave his job early and move away with her. He lost so much of his pension because of that. But past three years he has been lot different towards me. I do believe ow was not around when he text or Face Time. If she was I would have heard her in background .
Hannah: All - when I hear of couples breaking up I am about to introduce the one the one that is left to our group and then I hear that they want a new beginning. Nobody seems to want to repair their marriages these days.
Swan: Hannah - give up, move on, throw people away, seems to be the path of today's society. Working on things are just too hard, so people toss things and people a side and go with the next thing. That happens a lot with jobs, especially young people, no one wants to learn the job right, so they half way do it and when someone corrects them, they quick.
Bluesky: Swan, I didn't know that you had a police officer in your scenario too. I haven't heard this story before. Wow. So he believed what she was saying despite know you all his life?
Swan: Bluesky - she was the one that he had gone to elementary school with, she had lived down the street from his parents home. We had been married 28 years, complacency had set it and she was that fresh new exciting relationship that had overtones of childhood together. Plus she was a police officer and she could prove I have been threatening her (I wasn't, only knew her first name at this point). He wanted to believe the thrill was real and believed her lies, by the time they broke up he was already on line meeting other women and told me that he could never trust me again because of what I had done. It was his excuse to blame me for his choices, he admitted years later that he was a fool for believing the first other woman, but is also convinced it is too late; he has to live with the mess he has made.