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July 22, 2018 / Sunday

Brin: Swan, amazing that the OW is feeling so insecure especially when they have been on the verge of divorcing a number of times. Nice that your H is being protective of you. But I do hope he is able to accept the job offer!

Swan: Brin - I look at it this way, she may be making the demands, but his is accepting them and following, that is on him and him alone. I agree it was nice that he even considered how it might affect me, but there are times when he has commented to others "with all he did to me" or sometime similar. The job is down closer to San Diego, I don't go down there, and have no reason to, so I don't see any problems, but the other woman does so...

 

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July 22, 2018 / Sunday

Cricket: Happy Sunday all, welcome.

Swan: Hi Cricket

Cricket: Hi Cricket, how was your week?

Swan: Cricket - busy and hot! I guess I shouldn't complain, it is mid July and the temps haven't been in the high 90's yet, but that is supposed to be coming the next couple weeks. I am tired this week, but good news is I am off the next couple days. How about your week?

Swan: Hi Brin - How are you this week?

Brin: Hi Cricket & Swan, How are you both?

Brin: Swan, I'm tired but good. Sounds like you are too. Nice to have a few days off this week!

Cricket: Swan - It's been warm, last week was very hot and I felt bad for a painter working on my house as there isn't really any protection but thankfully it dropped to mid 80's to a few low 90's this past week. Thankfully the fog came in on the coast which helped us cool down at night in my area.

Cricket: Hi Brin, hope you're feeling better though.

Brin: Cricket, I had my final "procedure" last week, now have to wait 8 weeks for the last surgery. It's already scheduled for mid Sep.

Cricket: Swan - Nice to have a couple days off. News has been saying we're going to get another really hot spell but thankfully it hasn't hit yet. Friends went to Lake Tahoe and got some rain. Some other friends in Reno got hail and thunderstorms the past couple days. Rain helps the fires but the thunderstorms are scary.

Brin: Cricket, The thunderstorms could cause more fires?

Cricket: Brin - Great to get past the final procedure and have a break before your last surgery. Hopefully you're seeing the light at the end of the tunnel and all is successful.

Cricket: Brin - lightning strikes often cause fires.

Brin: Cricket, Thanks. Yes, can't wait for it to be over. I hope the thunderstorms stay away.

Cricket: Swan - Whoops - I see my typo above when I tried to say THANKFULLY the FOG came in on the coast that has helped, as they said at church this morning, God's air conditioning

Swan: Cricket - I have mixed feelings for rain down here, sadly it doesn't normally cool anything off, just adds humidity, which I really don't like. Fog would be good, but being in the desert, we do cool down for the most part once the sun goes down.

Cricket: Swan - I still feel that MLD is not having new people come to our site because of all the warnings that the site is not safe. I still get that warning when I click on the main MLD home page and then again when I log in for chat. If I didn't know I could trust this site, I would not enter.

Cricket: Swan - I took two new photos of the warnings I get and will email the two pictures to you. I know this was mentioned to Tech Support in the past but nothing changed. Just FYI.

Cricket: Swan - Yes the only thing about rain would be to help the firefighters but I agree I really don't like humidity. Week before the past one, it didn't cool down below 67 degrees outside at night for a few days which meant my home was too warm to sleep.

Brin: Cricket, I don't get any warning when I get on this site. It's weird that you get them.

Swan: Ladies - I overheard my son and daughter in law talking last week and my husband contacted our grandson and asked if they would come up to visit him this year. It was a "pity me" email and pissed my son off. He said he was going to answer the email and remind his father that the last time they went to his house they were treated like garbage and he will not risk that happening to his son and wife again. My son later asked me how long does this crazy stuff last because he would like to have a relationship with his father, but isn't open to dealing with the crazy. I am sad to hear my husband is still so deep in the MLC tunnel, but agree with my son, if his dad is going to go off on them, then boundaries are required.

Cricket: Brin - I didn't use to get them but I got a free subscription to Norton Security with my internet, TV and phone bundle. I know many people use Norton for internet security so they would get the warning.

Swan: Cricket - thanks, I will forward to Lisa and Bill, no one else had mentioned getting the warning for awhile, so I didn't know it is still happening.

Cricket: Swan - That is sad but as Jim has said boundaries can be part of the wakeup call for mlcrs. Regardless, it's important that your son reminded your H that they don't come visit because of the OW's actions and how she treated them.

Brin: Swan, Wow, interesting that you’re H contacted your grandson to request them to visit. It's good that your son is going to spell out his boundaries! Maybe this time, he'd be closer to hitting bottom.

Swan: Cricket - my daughter told me a couple weeks back that her dad was offered a job down here and would really love to accept it, however, is turning down the offer. He hadn't applied, it is with a company he worked for in the past, and they sought him out and offered a sizable increase in pay. My daughter said she asked him why he wouldn't accept it considered in amount of pay increase, he told her he feels he needs to protect me because he doesn't want the stuff that happened before to happen again. He also said that the other woman was giving him grief about the job because it is down here, however, once she heard the increase amount said if his kids would keep in under control and my husband never be anywhere that I am, she might consider it. I told my daughter to tell him that I am a big girl and so long as the other woman not pull what she did in the past and leave me alone, they can live anywhere they want. I cannot believe that after all these years the other woman is still so insecure and threatened by my presence, she is going to keep my husband from accepting a job he really enjoyed (back in the day).

Cricket: Swan - I copied Brin on my email too so she will see what I mentioned. Yes, it never stopped. When I was using Chrome which I had been using, it would not allow me to enter at all. When I tried Firefox, I noticed the box to check to enter anyway. I'd given this site to someone who asked me about it at my church. They had a friend who was struggling. She never came in and apparently due to fear of safety with the site. This was several months ago.

Swan: Brin - my husband often takes on the coward path and he knew he wouldn't get any questions about motive from our grandson.

Cricket:Swan - Wow, if nothing more, you'd think this would be another step for your H to work his way out of the tunnel. He knows that the problem is the OW and how sad that he can't accept a position that he really wants and would pay more is better for retirement, etc. YES I think the same about my H's OW, they are so insecure and that tells me they know that our H's still love us, they aren't secure in their relationship or they wouldn't be threatened.

Brin: Swan, amazing that the OW is feeling so insecure especially when they have been on the verge of divorcing a number of times. Nice that your H is being protective of you. But I do hope he is able to accept the job offer!

Brin: Cricket, Thanks. I can see why no one would want to come on our site when they see those 2 warnings!

Swan: Brin - I look at it this way, she may be making the demands, but his is accepting them and following, that is on him and him alone. I agree it was nice that he even considered how it might affect me, but there are times when he has commented to others "with all he did to me" or sometime similar. The job is down closer to San Diego, I don't go down there, and have no reason to, so I don't see any problems, but the other woman does so...

Swan: Brin - even more so, especially since there has been zero contact between my husband and me for 10 years now, yet I am an issue??

Brin: Swan, yeah, she must be feeling threatened because she knows he still loves you!

Cricket: Swan - If your d got a chance to assure him that you don't go down that way and it wouldn't be an issue, I wonder if he'd reconsider. Regardless, as you said, he's a big boy and will figure this out too.

Brin: Swan, I wonder if he doesn't trust himself to be closer to you.

Cricket: Swan - easier to blame someone else than to admit you have failed.

Swan: Cricket - I doubt it, he knows I wouldn't go looking for him and would make sure we don't cross paths in regards to the kids. He even commented that he trusts me not to cause problems.

Swan: Brin - I don't know if he doesn't trust himself, but I know the other woman doesn't trust him.

Brin: Swan, either way, I will pray that he accepts the job and that he makes his way back to you someday.

Swan: Brin - thanks

Brin: Do either of you know how Jim's health is these days?

Cricket: Swan - Yes, I remember that your H knows you've been respectful, never talk to the kids about him, etc. He knows it's the OW's issue.

Swan: Brin - I don't and I have failed to check with him lately, thanks for reminding me, I will see if I can check on that.

Brin: Swan - Thanks for checking

Cricket: Brin - I've noticed that he hasn't been on facebook for months. I see Jan post things but she hasn't posted about him. I did see that Pam Farrel posted a happy father's day on his site saying thanks for believing in us which I thought was sweet.

Brin: Cricket, I haven't seen Jan posting very much and nothing about Jim either.

Cricket: Swan - Something I noticed the past several months is that Jan's posts tend to say "my apartment I rented", not missing "my" home, etc. I had noticed this seem to change after the first of the year when they moved. Just made me wonder.

Cricket: Brin - Jan has been posting every few days, showing pictures of sunsets and a couple books she recommended but nothing about life in general.

Swan: Cricket - I haven't heard anything fatal about Jim, so I can't say why the difference. I will definitely check I know they are limiting the Latelifehope stuff, but even that has been mostly Jan since Jim retired completely.

Brin: Cricket, Hmmm, I wonder why she hasn't posted about their life in general.

Cricket: Swan - I just wondered if he was in a care facility. I have noticed that she and Pam are still in close contact. Jan posted info on a book Pam wrote about fathers and Jan posted photos on her wall so I have noticed they are in close contact. Just noticed that Jim hadn't posted for quite a while and Jan hadn't mentioned him so I worried about his health.

Brin: Cricket, Swan, On June 7, Jan posted "we still have our small group”

Cricket: Brin - That was a year ago when they were moving.

Brin: No, She wrote a post when she shared the memory.

Brin: Ladies, I'm heading out. Have a great week! It was good chatting!

Swan: I need to head out as well; they are waiting dinner for me. Night ladies, have an awesome week.

Brin: Night all!

Cricket: Swan - Do let us know what you learn about Jim, I think of him all the time Thanks.

Cricket: Night Brin

Brin: Swan, amazing that the OW is feeling so insecure especially when they have been on the verge of divorcing a number of times. Nice that your H is being protective of you. But I do hope he is able to accept the job offer!

Swan: Brin - I look at it this way, she may be making the demands, but his is accepting them and following, that is on him and him alone. I agree it was nice that he even considered how it might affect me, but there are times when he has commented to others "with all he did to me" or sometime similar. The job is down closer to San Diego, I don't go down there, and have no reason to, so I don't see any problems, but the other woman does so...

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