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July 18, 2018 / Wednesday

Little Magpie: we are still going to couples counseling a couple times a month. But our counselor sees us churning the same things over and over again

Swan: Little Magpie - The next time your counselor says you are churning, ask them how to stop that from being the case, because those same feeling are still there and you need their guidance to away from them. If they are still an issue for both of you, they are still an issue that hasn't been resolved or apparently addressed adequately and you need a third party to guide you through them so you can finally put them to rest. Don't allow the counselor to put it all on you guys, request guidance from them to move forward. Just my thought!

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July 18, 2018 / Wednesday

Little Magpie: Hello Swan

Swan: Hi Little Magpie, how have you been?

Little Magpie: swan - been rather frustrated and disappointed. H and D's not close to the belief that they had so it's rough. H doesn't like that I try to saturate myself with my faith for strength in these tough times

Little Magpie: Swan- How are you?

Swan: Little Magpie - unfortunately as others begin to drift away in their faith they also tend to resist anyone who isn't on board with them in that. And it also becomes so easy to give in and go along rather than stand firm in your faith. I applaud you for standing firm. It sounds like the enemy has their ears and whispering sweet nothings to lure them away from the Lord. Sadly there really isn't much you can do other than stand and pray. The more you remind them of their once standard of faith, the more they will resist and resent.

Little Magpie: things seem to be reverting back to the strained times of several years ago.

Swan: Little Magpie - Does your husband believe you are leaning too much on God and not enough on him. Has he stopped or slowed church attendance? Is there dust on his Bible? I have added you to my prayer list and will continue to lift this situation up in prayer.

Swan: Little Magpie - Can you tell if it is stress or complacency? Sometimes we go back to what is familiar when we are under stress, even if it isn't what we would rather. Or we just become stuck in a rut, not really wanting to put in the effort to move/grow forward.

Little Magpie: Swan- definitely dust on his bible and he frequently falls asleep in church since he has no interest. He goes but not enthusiastic or anything. Admits to not having a close relationship with God.

Little Magpie: he said he would be willing to read a couple devotional "for me” but not For US

Swan: Little Magpie - with things falling back to the strained times, is he feeling the maybe God has let him down in some ways. I know for some as they are under more and more stress, they begin to believe that God isn't listening, doesn't care and has abandoned them. At least he is still attending church; God can reach him in his state of sleep even if your husband isn't physically listening.

Swan: Little Magpie - Now that is a contradiction, he will do it for "you" but not the two of you, it sounds like it isn't so much about the two of you as a couple as it is himself. If he is feeling unassociated from God that could be part of why he isn't including himself.

Little Magpie: I have felt unequally yoked for years and he is proving it yet again. We purchased I can only imagine but he still refuses to watch it so, I haven't either.

Little Magpie: we are still going to couples counseling a couple times a month. But our counselor sees us churning the same things over and over again

Swan: Little Magpie - That is sad, so many couples start out equally yoked, but somewhere along the line they begin to drift and then differences start showing. I wish someone would have told my husband and I that marriage is a constant job and each have to put in the effort to keep things anew. We got into a state of distress from not really doing the extra stuff, but both thought we would doing great in our marriage, until it wasn't and one of us was tempted away. I don't blame my husband, he made some bad choices, but so did I. When his adultery came to light, I got very hurt and took it extremely personal, even attempted to get a little revenge (which was wrong on my part and only serviced to prove to him he was right after all).

Little Magpie: d's to be atheist. We watched CS Lewis related production of the reluctant convert and all of us watched. H chose it. He also chose a Christian comedian DVD.

Swan: Little Magpie - The next time your counselor says you are churning, ask them how to stop that from being the case, because those same feeling are still there and you need their guidance to away from them. If they are still an issue for both of you, they are still an issue that hasn't been resolved or apparently addressed adequately and you need a third party to guide you through them so you can finally put them to rest. Don't allow the counselor to put it all on you guys, request guidance from them to move forward. Just my thought!

Swan: Little Magpie - It sounds like God still have a hand on your husband's heart, but also that the enemy is trying hard to sway him away from the Lord. I am glad he is still choosing Christian things; it shows he is still fighting the battle.

Little Magpie: swan- thanks. Hope you are well and have a blessed rest of the week

Little Magpie: I noticed that it is getting late so we should probably close.

Swan: Little Magpie - I am doing well, thanks for the blessing and I will keep you in prayer. Join us again, Bill should be here next week

Little Magpie: thanks and good night.

Swan: Night

Little Magpie: we are still going to couples counseling a couple times a month. But our counselor sees us churning the same things over and over again

Swan: Little Magpie - The next time your counselor says you are churning, ask them how to stop that from being the case, because those same feeling are still there and you need their guidance to away from them. If they are still an issue for both of you, they are still an issue that hasn't been resolved or apparently addressed adequately and you need a third party to guide you through them so you can finally put them to rest. Don't allow the counselor to put it all on you guys, request guidance from them to move forward. Just my thought!

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