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February 06, 2018 / Tuesday

Hannah: Swan my h is fine to everybody else. Sometimes I feel so sad and robbed of so much but then I think of my friends in this group and a few girl friends I have here and I am not alone in my lifestyle. I see my sister and her husband enjoying traveling together (she is still working but gets six weeks’ vacation a year and her husband is a retired police officer). I must admit I get jealous. My husband does come to some of my grandson's hockey games during the winter.

Swan: Hannah - I am not alone either, but lonely does creep in sometimes when I am either around couples or when those special holidays are coming up. My husband always made Christmas, my birthday and Valentine's Day special. The kids do things for my birthday and we still celebrate Christmas as we always did, but with him missing it can make me feel a little sad at times.

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February 06, 2018 / Tuesday

Hannah: Welcome this Tuesday evening.

Swan: Hello everyone welcome to Tuesday evening chat

Swan: Hi Hannah - How have you been doing?

Swan: Hannah - I was talking with my daughter yesterday and apparently my husband is raging again. With the recent mud slides up in the area my husband lives in, both of the kids contacted my husband to see if he had been affected. When my son called, husband just told him they hadn't been directly affected by the mud slide and were ok. When our daughter called to see how he was, he was in self pity mode and went on and on about how no one cared if he lived or died, so he didn't know why she was wasting her time calling him. She told him that there are people who care about him and are concerned about how he is doing. He asked who and she began to list off her, my son, grandson, his siblings, people who had been friends with him years back (they had contacted the kids to see how he was since he doesn't have anything to do with them anymore since the other woman doesn't like any of them). She said she didn't even mention me, but then all of a sudden my husband went off about how she needed to tell me to get a life and stop worrying about him. She said she told him that I don't spent time worrying about him, she doesn't believe I even think about him at all (she knows I do, but wasn't going to get into that with him). She said when she said that he seemed to get even angrier and started cursing at her and hung up on her. He called her back and it ended much the same way, when he hung up the third time, she turned her phone off, saying she was not going to play his crazy game with him. She got an email a few days later and he told her that his phone battery died, but she doesn't believe him since he often plays the hang up game whenever he is on the rage.

Swan: Hannah - My husband still acting like this is why I honestly believe the Lord is protecting me from the crazy by there not being any contact between us. Before our divorce was final, every time he and the other woman would have an argument he would call me in the middle of the night with his self pity stuff and it would always turn into accusing me of things, picking a fight, etc. I don't want to deal with that, I am enjoying the peace I have in my life, so thank God for protecting me from it now. I miss my husband and there are times I am lonely, but not sure being in contact with him right now would be a blessing.

Hannah: Swan I wrote a welcome note and then nobody was in chat and I then wrote a note saying I thought I would check in as I missed last week and nothing came up on the screen so I logged out and back in again. This time I see you came in

Hannah: Swan, so sad. I agree I miss my h and the company but he is so sarcastic and last time I saw him he didn't even acknowledge me and didn't come into my son's living room where we all were, he stayed in the kids play room.

Swan: Hannah - I saw the welcome note when I came in, but was beginning to wonder if there was something wrong since I seemed to be talking to myself - LOL

Swan: Hannah - the last time I saw my husband he just showed up at our son's and they were standing in the garage talking, I walked right past him and he didn't even skip a beat in what he was saying to our son, so I just kept going past him and went into my bedroom. I actually thought he would leave immediately, but he stayed for over an hour more, I just didn't go where they were so not to upset him. The strange thing is that there are times when he will ask about me, all anyone ever says is I am fine and he doesn't ask much more, so???

Hannah: Swan it is hard to understand when they are out in lala land as Laneous would say

Swan: Hannah - He appears so unhappy to anyone that has contact with him, how sad that this is what his life has become. I find myself feeling sorry for the other woman, she is the one dealing with his in his misery and he isn't a pleasant person to be around when he is feeling this way. I admit, I also wonder at times if she is shaking her head and asking what did she get herself into, but to be honest no one deserves to deal with my husband when he is miserable or scared, he doesn't deal with panic well.

Swan: Hannah - the sadist thing is what my husband is missing out on with our grandson, he is 16 years old now and looking more and more like a man with each day. They each have so much they could offer to the other, but my husband chooses to remain in hiding and with the exception of the holiday check he sends to our grandson, there is void.

Hannah: Swan my h is fine to everybody else. Sometimes I feel so sad and robbed of so much but then I think of my friends in this group and a few girl friends I have here and I am not alone in my lifestyle. I see my sister and her husband enjoying traveling together (she is still working but gets six weeks’ vacation a year and her husband is a retired police officer). I must admit I get jealous. My husband does come to some of my grandson's hockey games during the winter.

Swan: Hannah - I am not alone either, but lonely does creep in sometimes when I am either around couples or when those special holidays are coming up. My husband always made Christmas, my birthday and Valentine's Day special. The kids do things for my birthday and we still celebrate Christmas as we always did, but with him missing it can make me feel a little sad at times.

Hannah: I hear you loud and clear. Every time I hear of a couple divorcing or separating it breaks my heart

Swan: Hannah - it is good he attends your grandson's games, that is one of the things I know my husband would enjoy doing, especially when my grandson's team is playing in things like the junior Olympics’ or tournaments, but he does live a long way off, several hours drive.

Swan: Hannah - right now there is the new trend of marriage at first sight, I just cannot believe what Hollywood is doing to marriage and all for the all mighty dollar, it is so sad.

Hannah: Swan it is so sad. Hollywood makes me angry and sad. I won't watch award shows anymore because they have become political and the NFL can go take a hike - not kneeling for the anthem is a disgrace.

Kmkrn: ALL - I made it finally!

Swan: Hannah - I agree there really isn't much on television these days, I do like to watch wheel of fortune and another game show, but do see the commercials for shows and it only confirms to me that there really isn't anything worth my time anymore.

Swan: Hi KmKrn

Kmkrn: ALL - It was good to catch up with friends. Sorry to be so late...we just kept talking!

Hannah: Hi kmkrn

Kmkrn: ALL - I agree. I never turn the television on. But we sure did enjoy a great Super Bowl!!! My H flew to Philadelphia this morning to go to the parade on Thursday!

Kmkrn: Hi Hannah - I hope you are not a Patriot's fan.

Hannah: kmkrn well my children were born into Boston teams, my husband is from Massachusetts. I really didn't care, since all this kneeling for the anthem I am a little disgusted with players. The anthem is nothing to do with protesting.

Kmkrn: Hannah - I agree with you on the NFL being a disgrace about the kneeling.

Hannah: Well I am going to sign off now so goodnight to you both, have a great rest of the week.

Swan: I am not a Tom Brady fan, what kind of character does it say about a man who abandons his actress baby mama while she is pregnant so he can take up with a super model??

Swan: Night Hannah

Kmkrn: ALL - Well chat sure goes by fast when you are late! My dad has been home for a week now and is recovering slowly!

Kmkrn: Swan - I agree.

Swan: Night ladies, see you next week

Kmkrn: Swan - The Eagles are probably the most Christian team now, both QB's are good examples.

Kmkrn: Swan - Good night! I will be here next week

Hannah: Swan my h is fine to everybody else. Sometimes I feel so sad and robbed of so much but then I think of my friends in this group and a few girl friends I have here and I am not alone in my lifestyle. I see my sister and her husband enjoying traveling together (she is still working but gets six weeks’ vacation a year and her husband is a retired police officer). I must admit I get jealous. My husband does come to some of my grandson's hockey games during the winter.

Swan: Hannah - I am not alone either, but lonely does creep in sometimes when I am either around couples or when those special holidays are coming up. My husband always made Christmas, my birthday and Valentine's Day special. The kids do things for my birthday and we still celebrate Christmas as we always did, but with him missing it can make me feel a little sad at times.

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