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October 8, 2017 / Saturday

Bluesky: all, I came in to quote a comment I saw somewhere today. It was just so simple: Hardly any married man leaves his wife and family for someone better because someone better would never break up a family.

Swan: Bluesky - with both of my husband's other women I didn't feel he left us for something better, more he took a step down. The first one did some research on my husband before she contacted him, she knew a lot about him (including that he was married) when she did her "hey just want to catch up with old school mates) thing. And the second, what kind of woman is married yet trolling dating websites!! But then again my husband was married and trolling the same site, so...

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October 8, 2017 / Saturday

Brin: Hi everyone. Welcome to Sunday chat.

dani2: Hi Brin, How are you tonight? Sorry, I almost forgot about the 9 pm start, but it looks like there aren't a lot of people waiting to chat!

Brin: Hi dani! Good to see you! No problem. I'm doing fine. A little tired but ok. It's been a good weekend. How are you doing?

Brin: Dani, I was just thinking the same thing - these days, it seems that people aren't coming to chat much. And if they do come, they're mostly facilitators anyway.

dani2: I am doing well, thanks. It has been a weekend with my little 18 mos old grandson. He is a sweet blessing!

dani2: I have kind of lost track with what is going on with you these days. Probably not the best place to catch up, but hope you are feeling better and things have settled down for you.

Brin: How nice that you spent quality time with your sweet grandson this weekend!

Brin: Yes, I'm on the mend, even though it's been very slow - 2 steps forward, 1 step back. And yes things have settled down for me some...

dani2: Have you been back at work and are you able to get around ok? I know how much you enjoy the physical hiking and outings. Have you been able to do much of that?

Brin: Yes, I have been back at work. I really hardly took time off work. I can get around ok but can't stretch my arm or do much pushing or pulling. Can't carry heavy stuff which is hard since my work involves carrying heavy gear. As far as outings go, I actually just got back from a weeklong trip a week ago. The doc gave his blessing which was a miracle in itself!

Swan: Hello ladies

dani2: That is great you were able to get away. Did you travel away or did you stay local for your trip

dani2: Hi Swan, how are you doing tonight?

dani2: How is the job going?

Swan: dani - I am doing good, just got home from work. The job is going well.

Bluesky: Hi gals

Swan: Hi bluesky

Brin: Hi swan and Bluesky. How are you both doing?

Swan: Brin - I am well

dani2: Hi Bluesky, how are you doing tonight?

Brin: dani - I went away to AZ! And hiked in a beautiful canyon area

Bluesky: all, I came in to quote a comment I saw somewhere today. It was just so simple: Hardly any married man leaves his wife and family for someone better because someone better would never break up a family.

Swan: Brin - I see that you are doing well also; great the doctor gave his blessing.

Brin: Bluesky - I love the quote!

Bluesky: Brin, it sure resonated with me.

dani2: Brin - that is so wonderful! Glad you were able to do that!

dani2: Bluesky - EXACTLY!!!!

Brin: thanks dani - yes and it was a wonderful time. A blessing for sure.

Brin: swan - thanks. Yes, I was so sure the doc was going to stop me from going because I took a bad turn a few days before seeing him. Then he just told me to have a good time on my trip!

Brin: Bluesky - thanks for sharing it!

Swan: Bluesky - with both of my husband's other women I didn't feel he left us for something better, more he took a step down. The first one did some research on my husband before she contacted him, she knew a lot about him (including that he was married) when she did her "hey just want to catch up with old school mates) thing. And the second, what kind of woman is married yet trolling dating websites!! But then again my husband was married and trolling the same site, so...

dani2: Swan - Social media makes it too easy to be innocent looking "just catching up" and then be secretive at the same time. Pretty dangerous.

Swan: Bluesky - the other woman with my husband left her first husband to marry her second husband, she left her second husband to marry my husband and one day she will do to my husband what she did with him and leave him to marry her fourth husband, at least this time there isn't a child or two to leave with my husband to raise alone. She gave up her oldest son to his father, her next two son's to their father, so she not only abandons husbands; she throws children away as well.

dani2: Swan - so sad to think about for all involved. I can't imagine.

Brin: Swan, I can't wait for your H's OW to leave your H too!

Bluesky: Swan, wow, she has some real issues in her life.

Swan: dani - it really is sad, her three sons hate my husband, but he isn't fond of them either and apparently made it very clear that he was not their father, didn't want to be their father and they shouldn't consider him a step father, they are nothing to him. Her youngest son was a teenager and he immediately got into legal trouble and was given the choice of joining the Marine Corps or going to jail for the same time of 4 years. He chose the Marine Corps and since my husband had been a Marine, thought my husband was going to pull strings for him, from what my daughter says that caused a horrible fight, but my husband didn't bend. I honestly do not understand why they are still together, from what I hear from our children and join friends all they do is fight, she threatens to divorce him and take everything they have and for whatever reason he just sucks it up and takes from her??

Brin: swan - it makes no sense that he stays with her and takes all this yucky stuff from her...

Bluesky: Swan, what kind of strings did they want to be pulled? No basic?

Swan: Brin - Thanks, I bounce on that one! For the past several years I don't have anyone getting angry at me, there is no eggshell walking, I don't have to worry about being what someone else wants or expects of me. From what I understand he is an angry man and often throws raging fits, I want no part of that and I believe that God knows I cannot handle that, so until my husband is ready to change that, I think that God is protecting me and I have come to be ok with that.

Swan: Bluesky - basically that he could continue to be a punk and not get in trouble for any of it; she thought my husband could get him promoted quickly, stationed where they wanted him to be, etc. And as far as basic, she didn't want him to go to Parris Island, but that had nothing to do with my husband, they live in California so he was going to be send to San Diego anyway.

Brin: swan - It's wonderful that you are at peace with where God has you now!

Swan: brin - There are times that I take exception to his being that way now, because she treats him horribly and he just puts up with it, he lifelessly accepts things from her that he never would have allowed me to do. He behaves as a defeated man from what others say.

Bluesky: Swan, oh good lawd.

Bluesky: Swan, is the kid still in?

dani2: It sounds like he has created quite a miserable situation for himself.

Swan: Bluesky - my husband was already retired when they got married, my husband never would have asked anyone that might have still been active duty for anything like that, but she pressed.

Brin: Swan - well if he just accepts things from her, is it possible he's managing his anger better now? Or is he only like this with her, but takes it out on everyone else?

Swan: Bluesky - no, he did the four years and got out, last I heard he lives with them on and off, he is in his late 20's at this point.

Bluesky: Swan, it sounds like it didn't do him any good.

Bluesky: Good night all have a great week.

Brin: Good night Bluesky!

dani2: Good night Bluesky - Have a blessed week!

Brin: Good night Swan and dani too. Have a wonderful week!

dani2: Brin and Swan - you two have a great week as well. Brin I hope you continue to feel better. God Bless!

Swan: Brin - oh no, he still blows up at others and her when he just can't take anymore, but with his heart condition, I guess he does need to control his anger some and allowing her to do whatever might be one way of doing that, but I would think holding it in would be worse?

Swan: Night ladies, see you next week.

Brin: Swan - I agree - holding in the anger is not good for his health. Hopefully, he gets help with his anger management problem!

Bluesky: all, I came in to quote a comment I saw somewhere today. It was just so simple: Hardly any married man leaves his wife and family for someone better because someone better would never break up a family.

Swan: Bluesky - with both of my husband's other women I didn't feel he left us for something better, more he took a step down. The first one did some research on my husband before she contacted him, she knew a lot about him (including that he was married) when she did her "hey just want to catch up with old school mates) thing. And the second, what kind of woman is married yet trolling dating websites!! But then again my husband was married and trolling the same site, so...

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