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Valentine's Day 2017

Hannah: Swan for sure. I wonder what he does now or if the ow controls everything! I also did a lot for my husband, as you know being military the wives are left to run the home.

Swan: Hannah - Exactly the military thing was what lead me to just jump in and take care of whatever he wanted, I cannot tell you how many times I heard the phrase, "could you take care of that?" and then I immediately answer, "sure", then it became my constant task. But I did it because it lifted the stress of his military obligations and… Ironically, when he was involved with the first other woman, he would often comment that I was not the boss of him (just like a toddler would say), yet he wouldn't do anything without running it past the other woman first. The second other woman is said to play stupid, but is in total control. Example: she is still in constant contact with both of her ex-husband's, one of them is even her go to if anything happens and my husband isn't home, which given his travel schedule is often. But she has also issued the no contact between my husband and I command and she limits the contact he is permitted with our children and grandson. He allows it, so it is on him as far as I am concerned. I never attempted to control him, I don't think he would have allowed it either, but she does and I have been told she has even given him chores, which my daughter says is why he spends so much time traveling for work.

 

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February 14, 2017 / Tuesday

Hannah: Happy Valentine’s Day. A hard one for us. “Love suffers long and is kind; love does not envy; love does not parade itself, is not puffed up; does not behave rudely, does not seek its own, is not provoked, thinks no evil; does not rejoice in iniquity, but rejoices in the truth; bears all things, believes all things, hopes all things, endures all things. Love never fails.” (1 Corinthians 13:4-8)

Hannah: Happy Valentine's Day Swan. Any news on the new job?

Swan: Hi Hannah - I still don't have a start date for the job, waiting to hear from the manager. When I ran into her, she said the employee was leaving the end of this month, so I should be hearing from her soon.

Swan: Hannah - Fortunately for me, my son and daughter in law are conservative with money, so things like birthdays, Valentine’s day, even Christmas is done low key, so I don't have to see lots of gifts around the house today.

Hannah: Swan that is good. The end of the month will be here before you know it. Valentine’s Day is low key in my family too, although my son always buys me a bunch of roses.

Hannah: I just gave my grandchildren a card with $5 in. Their other grandma goes crazy with expensive gifts, I just can't afford that.

Swan: Hannah - My husband used to send me flowers from Pro Flowers and give me a card. I have never really liked crowds so going out was never my thing.

Swan: Hannah - I can't afford expensive gifts either anymore, my grandson doesn't seem to mind, but then again he was pretty young when I was able to.

Swan: Hannah - I needed to go to the store earlier today and found myself laughing so hard at the almost empty isle of Valentines stuff and the number of men picking through the limited items. It isn't like February 14th doesn't come the same time every year and they know they will be in trouble if they ignore it, so why do they wait until the last minute?

Hannah: Swan my neighbor has just told me the same thing! She was in the grocery store and saw exactly what you saw! LOL

Hannah: Swan and she said they were all ages!

Swan: Hannah - Yeah, same here, it wasn't just the young guys, it was all ages.

Hannah: Swan how is the coffee shop going?

Swan: Hannah - The other day I for some reason started thinking about how my husband really never had to do much for himself and how I continued that when we got married. His oldest sister and I were chatting and she mentioned how their mother treated him so different from the older four and how she did everything for him. Granted she had the first four within four years and then there was a seven year delay before my husband was born and three years before his younger brother was born. At first he did the yard, but by the third year of our marriage, I was doing that too along with everything around the house, the bills, and any research for anything, etc. It does make me proud when I see my son step up and take care of about half of the stuff.

Swan: Hannah - The coffee shop is doing ok, the catering side is actually doing better, but the shop pretty much eats up any profit from that. For some reason my daughter in laws mother renewed the building lease for five years without talking to her at all, she was going to recommend they work more towards the catering, but now she is stuck dealing with both, which limits her time to be able to promote the catering.

Hannah: Swan for sure. I wonder what he does now or if the ow controls everything! I also did a lot for my husband, as you know being military the wives are left to run the home.

Swan: Hannah - Exactly the military thing was what lead me to just jump in and take care of whatever he wanted, I cannot tell you how many times I heard the phrase, "could you take care of that?" and then I immediately answer, "sure", then it became my constant task. But I did it because it lifted the stress of his military obligations and… Ironically, when he was involved with the first other woman, he would often comment that I was not the boss of him (just like a toddler would say), yet he wouldn't do anything without running it past the other woman first. The second other woman is said to play stupid, but is in total control. Example: she is still in constant contact with both of her ex-husband's, one of them is even her go to if anything happens and my husband isn't home, which given his travel schedule is often. But she has also issued the no contact between my husband and I command and she limits the contact he is permitted with our children and grandson. He allows it, so it is on him as far as I am concerned. I never attempted to control him, I don't think he would have allowed it either, but she does and I have been told she has even given him chores, which my daughter says is why he spends so much time traveling for work.

Hannah: Swan I never controlled my h either, he did and went where he wanted to go (even on mountain climbing expeditions with air force friends) but ow controls him!

Swan: Hannah - I ran into someone that my husband was stationed with years back at the commissary last year, he told me that he had run into my husband and the other woman and commented that he couldn't believe how whipped my husband was, it was a shame to see a man who had been a strong, bold Marine acting like a whinny sissy. I didn't comment; felt it was best to just leave it. This guy had been my husband's junior, so it wasn't appropriate to add to the gossip.

Hannah: Swan best not to say anything

Swan: Hannah - Mentioning AF, an AF academy representative came to meet with my grandson in December, that is the school my grandson is leaning towards, looks like he has a good chance of getting in.

Hannah: Swan that is great. We were on the Academy for a year while my h did his internship at the Hospital. (He was an NCO for 12 years but then became a Physician's Assistant and became an officer for 10 years. He always said his best years were Para rescue.

Swan: Hannah - Yeah, I just don't want to open that door should my husband and this man run into one another again, he has nothing to repeat that I said to my husband, besides I don't want to confirm any unkind thoughts people might have towards him.

Hannah: Swan all his para-rescue friends and their wives are on Facebook and are friends with me. H is not on Facebook. We often reminisce

Hannah: Swan I am going to go, I guess this week was like last week.

Swan: Hannah - Someone asked my grandson what he is planning to study, he looked at them like "WHAT!” he is only fifteen and still has two and a half years before college, but in all honesty he does need to start thinking about it. He says he has a couple years and many people don't even pick a major until their junior year, so he has time.

Swan: Night, see you next week. I forgot to send out a reminder, so I will take the blame for tonight or we can blame cupid! LOL

Hannah: See you next week, have a good week.

Hannah: Swan for sure. I wonder what he does now or if the ow controls everything! I also did a lot for my husband, as you know being military the wives are left to run the home.

Swan: Hannah - Exactly the military thing was what lead me to just jump in and take care of whatever he wanted, I cannot tell you how many times I heard the phrase, "could you take care of that?" and then I immediately answer, "sure", then it became my constant task. But I did it because it lifted the stress of his military obligations and… Ironically, when he was involved with the first other woman, he would often comment that I was not the boss of him (just like a toddler would say), yet he wouldn't do anything without running it past the other woman first. The second other woman is said to play stupid, but is in total control. Example: she is still in constant contact with both of her ex-husband's, one of them is even her go to if anything happens and my husband isn't home, which given his travel schedule is often. But she has also issued the no contact between my husband and I command and she limits the contact he is permitted with our children and grandson. He allows it, so it is on him as far as I am concerned. I never attempted to control him, I don't think he would have allowed it either, but she does and I have been told she has even given him chores, which my daughter says is why he spends so much time traveling for work.

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