Midlife Dimensions


Loving God, Loving others, on Valentine's Day

The heartbeat of Christianity is love, the kind of love that sacrifices for the wellbeing of another. Phil. 2:3-5 expressed the goal of a good way to make everyday a Valentine’s Day.

“Do nothing out of selfish ambition or vain conceit. Rather, in humility value others above yourselves, not looking to your own interests but each of you to the interests of the others. In your relationships with one another, have the same mindset as Christ Jesus…”

So for Valentine’s Day, or any day this week, try showing the love of Christ by placing someone’s needs above your own:

Honor your parents. If they are married to each other, create a “this is your love” night where they can retell their love story, and the special memories along their life path, over a lovely dinner with their kids and grandkids. Go the extra mile and cook his and hers favorite foods. (If your folks are divorced, plan a heart healing night out where you treat your mom or dad to a dinner out, or a home cooked meal, and tell him/her thanks for being your parent.)

Host a party with a purpose. Select a missions project, third world need, or local charity and have everyone who attends the party bring a contribution. An easy option is a dinner party where each person brings the nonperishables for a family to make a dinner then donate those goods to a local food pantry. Other options could be a “Diva Dinner” and all bring make up and personal toiletries to donate to a women’s shelter, or a “Sole” food dinner where you can serve authentic soul food, and then all participants donate their shoes (soles) to homeless shelter.

Take time off, around Valentine’s, to do charity work in a third world country or spend a day or weekend on a service project in the inner city or a poverty zone in the rural countryside. (To find local charities, talk with your pastor, the Missions pastor, a local Christian bookstore, or check the local Christian newspaper or website in your city).

Host a mixer or dinner party and invite your closest friends, but ask each friend to bring two friends and widen your social circle.

  • For women: Have a girlfriends’ gathering: Each bring your favorite appetizers (or food for a potluck) and spend time laughing together. Try a theme, like an 80’s party, or an evening of Bunco.
  • For men: Call the guys together and do something to boost testosterone: golf, racquetball, the batting cages, skeet shooting, then add on something to prove you are a true gentleman: shovel snow off some elderly people’s sidewalks, pool your wisdom to tune up each other’s cars, or strap on your tool belts and dive into a home improvement project.
  • Host a contest: a chili cook-off; best chocolate dessert culinary challenge; a bike race or fun run. Take your favorite hobby and put out the word through social media of a meet up and match off!

Have a blast to the past with one of these activities of enjoyed as a teen:

  • Road Trip!: Take a road trip to a Christian conference or concert. Volunteer to spearhead the carpool and mix up the passengers to build some new friendships. To make things more interesting, rotate seats in cars along the route at each stop.
  • A Car Rally: Leave clues around town and create teams for a photo at each location.
  • A Geo Cache: Enjoy the outdoors with a group using your GPS, compass and sense of adventure as you locate the “cache” with some teamwork.
  • A Progressive Dinner: Go from home to home in your friendship circle and have one course of a meal in each place.

The common thread in these ideas is initiative. Make time to pray for the Lord’s guidance, and allow Him to lead you in what project you can do to show Christ’s love on, or around, Valentine’s Day. Don’t be afraid to be bold! Be brave! Be the one who makes things happen! 


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