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Thanksgiving ~ 2013

6:48 PM

HopinginHim

Bluesky - I am laughing at that one. When we first met, he actually came to one of my dance recitals. He was so proud. He can't dance worth a bean!!!

6:48 PM

Bluesky

HopinginHim but it shows him you are moving forward with your life and getting hobbies.

 


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November 28, 2013 / Thursday 6-7 pm PST / Special Thanksgiving Day

6:01 PM

Bluesky

Good evening and Happy Thanksgiving. I hope you had a blessed day.

6:01 PM

Tiger

Hey Bluesky - how was your day?

6:01 PM

Bluesky

Tiger Nice, quiet, just as I planned. Thanks and you?

6:03 PM

Tiger

Bluesky - It stunk!!! I didn’t expect to hear from H, but not ONE of my 3 kids called at all. I had a leftover piece of chicken.

6:03 PM

Tiger

hey cricket

6:04 PM

Bluesky

Hi Cricket, Nice to see you.

6:04 PM

Bluesky

Tiger could you have called them?

6:04 PM

Tiger

Bluesky - you know I suppose I could have, however I wanted someone to think of me for a change instead of me always thinking of them

6:05 PM

cricket

Happy Thanksgiving

6:05 PM

Bluesky

cricket same to you.

6:06 PM

cricket

Tiger - I'm so sorry. I do think people get used to us being busy and with our H's at holidays and they forget that we are alone. They have gotten into habits with their own families and forget.

6:06 PM

Tiger

Bluesky - I guess I’m just in a bad mood, just tired of all of this, then I call my sister tonight and we talk. I told her about H calling me last week and she told me tell him to xxx off. I should know better than to try and talk to her

6:07 PM

Bluesky

Tiger holidays are very difficult.

6:07 PM

Bluesky

Tiger could you have gone to your BF house?

6:08 PM

Tiger

cricket - my D had thanksgiving at her house Sunday for her, my D and her kids, my S, their dad, my D's in-laws and sil and bil. I had to work, so I thought I would be able to do something with them today. Nope, they spent the day with their dad, all of them.

6:08 PM

Bluesky

cricket so happy to hear from Pualani. Though so sad to hear her children are the way they are still.

6:09 PM

cricket

Tiger - I just called my sister and as wonderful as she is, she hadn't called. I kind of expected her to call sooner and she said she was waiting until things settled down where she could talk. She'd been so busy getting dinner together, etc.

6:10 PM

cricket

Bluesky - Yes it was great to hear from her, sad that her kids aren't treating her better.

6:10 PM

Bluesky

HopinginHim, welcome tonight and Happy Thanksgiving.

6:11 PM

HopinginHim

Cricket and Bluesky - Hi! Happy Thanksgiving to both of you!

6:11 PM

Tiger

cricket - well it’s after 8 here, things are all settled down, and they could have called me to check on me. I’ve always been the one to keep the family together and plan things. I guess if I don’t do it, no one does

6:11 PM

Tiger

HopinginHim -hi

6:11 PM

cricket

Tiger - You know we tend to have a hard time during the holidays yet our families are so busy with their own lives and don't realize what we are going through.

6:11 PM

Bluesky

Tiger my son called me today, thankfully, but when he mentions doing something with his father, I sure get a twinge of sadness.

6:12 PM

cricket

Tiger - YUP, the kids get used to us being there for them. Much like we get used to being there for our H's.

6:12 PM

HopinginHim

Tiger - Hi! I am so sorry to hear that Thanksgiving didn't turn out quite so well.

6:13 PM

cricket

Tiger - Sometimes they also worry about what to say and know that we are struggling and they don't know what to do.

6:14 PM

Bluesky

Tiger why don't you call them right now so you feel better.

6:15 PM

HopinginHim

All - in my country of origin it is not Thanksgiving today. Had a tougher day today. My S (18) is a little down after breaking up with his girlfriend. He has recently shown interest in reconnecting with some Christian friends. But today, when I tried to follow up, that was put to a stop. It’s hard. It’s just like MLC. The moment you nudge they back away. It’s discouraging.

6:15 PM

cricket

Tiger - I agree I'd give them a call. I'm sure you'll feel better afterward.

6:16 PM

HopinginHim

Tiger - I agree as well. I am sure a phone call will really help. Are your children boys or girls. In my experience, boys are TERRIBLE at connecting with their mothers!

6:17 PM

Bluesky

HopinginHim oh, yeah, you are up north. Yours was last month right? Nice praise even though he back off.

6:17 PM

Bluesky

Tiger also, if as you say you are the one that always holds it together; maybe they are expecting to hear from you.

6:18 PM

cricket

HopinginHim - That's right, I remember that Buttons celebrated her holiday a few weeks ago. She's up north too but on west of you.

6:18 PM

HopinginHim

Bluesky - Thanks. Yes. We celebrated last month. After the conversation with S he could tell I was a little hurt and upset. So, I called back to apologize. I simply told him I loved him and that it is hard for me to watch those I love make choices that concern me. I told him I will always love him and always be there for him. No matter what. It is just hard some days. It ended well but still discouraging at times.

6:19 PM

Tiger

All- I feel fine, I am just a little hurt that's all. It’s not like I haven’t been hurt. I’ll get over it, it is what it is.

6:20 PM

Bluesky

HopinginHim oh how I know that. My son is 25 and used to be on fire for God, now he doesn't believe at all.

6:20 PM

Bluesky

brin, how nice to see you.

6:20 PM

brin

Hi everyone. Happy Thanksgiving.

6:20 PM

cricket

Hi Brin - Good to see you, Happy TG to you too.

6:20 PM

brin

Bluesky :20 - Hi Bluesky. Nice to see you too and the rest

6:21 PM

brin

cricket :20, Hey cricket. I didn't expect to see you here. Thought you'd be tied up with your family gathering.

6:21 PM

cricket

Bluesky - I do believe young people go through phases where they search for their own identity. Hopefully he'll come back around in time.

6:21 PM

HopinginHim

Bluesky - I am so sorry to hear that. I know that each of children need to make this their own. The similarities between teenage rebellion and questioning and MLC are uncanny. Sometimes I feel like I have two teenagers I am trying to ride this through with! :) I know that ultimately, keeping a relationship strong is important. I told him I will always be there to listen.

6:22 PM

Bluesky

cricket I hope so. He is so against government, and God that I wonder if he will change.

6:22 PM

Tiger

HopinginHim - I have D33, D30, S28

6:22 PM

Bluesky

HopinginHim so true.

6:23 PM

HopinginHim

Bluesky - I totally agree with Cricket. I firmly believe that a lot of children go through this phase and then, with a good foundation, find their way home. I have been reading a great book by James MacDonald called "Come Home". It is on dealing with the prodigals in our lives. You may like it. Helps me pray and relate more effectively.

6:23 PM

cricket

brin - I normally meet my sister & BIL but this year, things happened where we couldn't get together. This is the first year in 10 yrs since my H left that I haven't been with them. I've had invitations (3 of them) and still might stop by one friend's but I've enjoyed a relaxing day at home. I picked up a turkey dinner to go from a local market that does a great job and enjoyed my quiet day

6:23 PM

Bluesky

HopinginHim I will check it out thanks.

6:23 PM

brin

HopinginHim :21, Hi there. We haven't met before. Is your H living at home still?

6:23 PM

Bluesky

cricket that is what I did today too. And you know, it was okay. No pressure or fighting hahaha

6:24 PM

Bluesky

brin how is your health?

6:25 PM

HopinginHim

Brin - Hi! Nice to meet you! My H has been gone now for 7 months. We tried to work things through for 5 months after BD. We are still in constant contact. His relationship with the OW is only emotional, so he has told me. What about you? What is your story, if you feel comfortable to share?

6:25 PM

brin

cricket :23, Things are different for me this year too. Feels more like the early years where I am spending TG alone. The friends who usually invite me went away for TG and I didn't know until last minute and didn't make any other plans.

6:26 PM

brin

Bluesky :25, It's been getting better and better. They just decreased the meds dosage yesterday so I am really relieved. Looks like I am getting better. So glad that I didn't listen to the doctor's advice to have surgery.

6:27 PM

Bluesky

brin that's amazing news. I am pushing 30 years with mine. No other choice and knowledge back then, well really still.

6:27 PM

cricket

Bluesky - A friend of mine had become angry at god and recommended a book - I just blanked on the name but it had a title something like being angry at God. It really helped him come back around. I just went to search my bookcase to find it and didn't right now.

6:28 PM

brin

HopinginHim :25, Hi there! Mine has been gone over 7 years now. Left to find an OW, filed for divorce, married OW 10 days after D finalized. It's been almost 3 years since he married OW. He has an anger management issue and maybe MLC.

6:28 PM

cricket

brin - The thing that is different for me is that I've really enjoyed today. It was beautiful here, 65-70 sunny and I sat outside with my kitties playing in my yard. I kind of felt like I let them have fun for TGD

6:29 PM

Bluesky

cricket I don't think I could even bring it up to my son. He really believes in the science thing and I can't keep up with intellectually arguing.

6:29 PM

Bluesky

brin do you have any communication with him?

6:30 PM

brin

Bluesky :27, Mine is the opposite than yours. Yes, surgery would only make yours worse.

6:30 PM

HopinginHim

Brin - I am so sorry to hear that! How are you coping? Do you have any contact with H at all?

6:31 PM

Bluesky

brin true. Thankfully it was never an issue. I have changed to natural meds that have more T in it and has helped quite a bit.

6:31 PM

HopinginHim

Tiger - you are quiet. Are you ok?

6:31 PM

brin

cricket :28, I really enjoyed my day too. Went for a hike with a big group of people, took photos, then been processing the photos and posting them. I do enjoy the quietness. Probably why I didn't make any other plans. Not a peep from the kids - strange!

6:32 PM

cricket

ALL- I was on the phone my sister tonight. We believe her son in law is in mlc. My sister noticed things when she spent a few weeks with them the end of Oct/Nov. From things that are happening, it is obvious to both of us but her d has been in denial. The d called tonight asking for prayer but is in that stage of he better get his head on straight or else. Her H is working on the East Coast and has been for a few months. He'd been coming home often and had been attentive but recently things changes. He has all the symptoms and triggers for mlc. Thankfully my sister has learned a lot while supporting me and has been sharing with her d who has always been the princess, very successful, gorgeous and strong personality.

6:32 PM

brin

HopinginHim :30, I have been coping fine. The first few years were rough. I took up many new hobbies, got more involved with people, church and hobbies. My life has really been very full. Don't even have time for anyone really.. so not sure how I managed a H at home :)

6:33 PM

Bluesky

brin so glad to hear. I enjoy the quietness too. You process your own photos? That is way cool.

6:33 PM

cricket

brin - Yes my life had been so busy that I kept stalling going over to a friend's home who I planned to stop by. Things have been so nice and now I'm thinking it's too late to go by now but I'm really okay with that. I did meet a friend for coffee late morning and enjoyed that visit.

6:33 PM

Bluesky

cricket wow, it is never-ending. So sorry to hear it has hit again.

6:34 PM

brin

Bluesky :29, No, not a peep from him for almost 2 years, I'd say. Sometimes, I think he'll never change. Too proud to admit his actions, perhaps.

6:34 PM

Bluesky

brin yeah, me too. They are stubborn.

6:34 PM

cricket

Tiger - I home you are quiet because you're on the phone with your kids. Try to remember that they get busy during the holidays and they don't realize how much we miss their call. We work so hard to let them feel we are okay, to stay upbeat, they don't realize it. I do think my sister would have called me later tonight but I just called when it was good timing.

6:34 PM

brin

Bluesky :33, Yes, they are digital photos. You get the software and learn how to use it :) Needs a lot of patience ;)

6:34 PM

HopinginHim

Brin - I laughed at your response. I feel, in some way, the same. I am still close with my H but he is a perfectionist that is hard on him and others. I have to say that right now, I am enjoying the lack of "pressure" of having him around. I am really enjoying the time with my children and focusing on them and time for me.

6:35 PM

Bluesky

HopinginHim we call that not 'walking on eggshells' anymore. It is freeing.

6:35 PM

brin

cricket :28, So nice that you were able to enjoy the kitties in the nice sunshine!

6:36 PM

Bluesky

brin oh I thought you meant the old dark room way. Silly me

6:36 PM

brin

HopinginHim :34, Sounds like you are having a great attitude about this journey.

6:36 PM

cricket

Bluesky - Sadly, as my sister said, her d is not that receptive to doing the work on her own. She is a Christian, they both are, but she's making all the typical mistakes like reading him the riot act when he called telling her he was driving home and would call and didn't. She'd called & texted him several times yesterday without response and when he finally did call 24 hrs later, she let him have it. My sister tried to give him suggestions but didn't feel they were received.

6:36 PM

HopinginHim

Bluesky - I like that analogy. It is true. Often you don't even realize it until it’s no longer the case that you actually were walking on eggshells!

6:36 PM

Tiger

cricket - no, not on the phone, just kind of sitting here and thinking, that’s all

6:36 PM

Bluesky

HopinginHim yep

6:37 PM

brin

Bluesky :36, No not silly. Some people still use the dark room/. I still have a film camera which I might still use someday. So maybe I'll get a darkroom when I grow up ...

6:37 PM

cricket

Bluesky - LOL I was thinking the same thing as you. I should have realized everything is digital now, but my mind went to dark room too.

6:38 PM

cricket

brin - LOL I love that, see you really are enjoying life now, doing things you wouldn't have done except for this journey. I mean, WOW climbing various famous mountains, going to Africa, how exciting.

6:38 PM

HopinginHim

Brin - Thanks for the encouragement. I am trying. That is not to say that I don't have down days!

6:38 PM

Bluesky

brin cricket lol, how funny.

6:38 PM

brin

All, I agree - I remember walking on eggshells the whole time and remember a weight lifted off my shoulder the day I found he'd moved out.

6:38 PM

Bluesky

brin when are you planning on growing up? LOL

6:40 PM

brin

cricket :38, Thanks cricket. I don't want to waste my life away anymore. In a way, I was not doing much with my life when H was around. After my cancer journey, I started to make the most of life (that I'd wasted before) and then stopped after H came into my life.

6:40 PM

brin

Bluesky :39, Probably never ;)

6:41 PM

cricket

HopinginHim - I found the same things. I worked so hard in the 6 months my H was home after he dropped the bomb. I really did some good things and feel good that when he moved out, he'd seen many changes BUT wow I did notice how much stress was lifted when he did leave. Of course I had hoped he didn't leave and did all I could in hopes he wouldn't but the stress was incredible walking on eggs. Since my H left, I have accomplished things I'd never thought possible before this journey. I really have gotten to a place where I enjoy my life and proud of everything I've done and continue to do.

6:41 PM

HopinginHim

Tiger - I know that I have had many days when I feel discouraged and abandoned. I have found that, while not easy to do, when I spend time in the Word and focus on the fact that I am His daughter, He loves me like no one else ever will, He will never leave me nor forsake me and that He is my only true refuge, strong tower and rock to stand on, it helps. I have read a really good book by Kay Arthur called "As Silver Refined". It has been a huge help to me - especially on tough days.

6:41 PM

brin

Bluesky :41 I can almost hear you laugh, and I had to LOL too

6:42 PM

Bluesky

brin hehehe

6:43 PM

cricket

brin - Yes I realized that I was so busy trying to be super wife and doing all the things I thought I should for my H. I stepped aside from career opportunities and other things. I now realize that my H began to feel smothered and that it was my mistake taking on the role I THOUGHT I was suppose to take on.

6:43 PM

Bluesky

HopinginHim I am thinking about getting When Life Hurts by Jimmy Evans for my kindle. I have been going back and forth all day on it.

6:43 PM

brin

cricket :41, Yes, you are one amazing woman - a superwoman I call you! I don't know how you keep track of everyone's stories, respond to every email, etc, in addition to all of your public duties.

6:43 PM

HopinginHim

Cricket - that is so helpful. Thanks for the encouragement. I am trying to focus on things that I wouldn't have done before. I am looking into ballroom dancing (my parents both were) and also music (both piano and vocals). Things I never had time for before. But I really have found such a huge increase in my enjoyment of my kids. I love planning fun things for us to do. That was always H's job before. It feels good.

6:44 PM

Bluesky

brin ditto what you said about Cricket.

6:45 PM

HopinginHim

Bluesky - I haven't read that one. I'll have to look it up!!! I think I have about 10 books by my bedside I am trying to get through. I could take a week away just to read!!! :)

6:45 PM

Bluesky

HopinginHim nice to hear.

6:45 PM

cricket

brin - I found a friend of my mil and our family who'd moved out of state. Her H had been VERY controlling and verbally abusive. They finally divorced after one too many affairs and abuse. I talked to her a long time today and she said how much she is enjoying life. She is 66 and her H has been married and divorced 3 times after leaving her and moving toward a 4th divorce. She talked about how much she is loving her career and traveling the world. She doesn't date and said she has found she is very happy with her life.

6:45 PM

Tiger

all- I’m going to go, not really in a talkative mood, good night

6:45 PM

brin

HopinginHim @44, Ballroom dancing is so fun. I hope you find time to get into it.

6:46 PM

HopinginHim

Brin - I grew up dancing and would love to get back into it. Plus, it's great exercise!! Now that I am almost a year out, the 30 lbs lost is starting to creep back on! Eeeek!

6:47 PM

Bluesky

HopinginHim that will be awesome for your h to see you doing.

6:48 PM

HopinginHim

Bluesky - I am laughing at that one. When we first met, he actually came to one of my dance recitals. He was so proud. He can't dance worth a bean!!!

6:48 PM

cricket

HopinginHim - YES, I've actually given testimonies at my church about how this journey, although painful, has really made very positive changes in my life. That God had to get my attention with a 2 x 4 but in this, I've reconnected with Him, I've found talents I'd never have found. I've pursued hobbies I had given up, traveled to Europe and even received the Woman of the Year Award in my community 2 yrs ago.

6:48 PM

Bluesky

HopinginHim but it shows him you are moving forward with your life and getting hobbies.

6:48 PM

Bluesky

cricket Gosh 2 years already?

6:49 PM

HopinginHim

Cricket - that is amazing!!!! What a wonderful testimony you are!!!

6:49 PM

cricket

HopinginHim - I always wanted to take ballroom dancing classes. My H took one class years ago and hated it and refused to go back. That is one thing I'd still like to do.

6:49 PM

cricket

Bluesky - Yes, It's amazing to me too as it just seems like yesterday, if I didn't know who received the award this year and last, I would think it was last year.

6:50 PM

brin

cricket :45, Good for her. Some of these prodigals just don't learn. How sad! I know of people (non-MLC) who have regretted filing for divorce. I still wonder if my H will ever change. To be honest, I would be too scared to date anyone after what happened.

6:50 PM

cricket

HopinginHim - We have a friend here, a facilitator who teaches Ballroom. She is incredible.

6:50 PM

HopinginHim

Cricket - Fantastic! I think the classes would be a lot of fun and I don't think you need a partner!

6:50 PM

cricket

HopinginHim - That would be Hannah

6:51 PM

HopinginHim

Cricket - Wow! Thanks for the tip! I don't think I have ever seen Hannah as a facilitator. I am not always able to get on to chat. I'll have to keep my eye out.

6:51 PM

Bluesky

HopinginHim She actually has a hard time getting in these days too.

6:51 PM

cricket

HopinginHim - I was told you don't need a partner. It's on my to do list. A close friend of my sister gave me some lessons when I was visiting at my sisters a few years ago. Even the things this friend showed me (he'd been an instructor years ago) really helped but I realized I need to practice as you lose the skills quickly.

6:52 PM

brin

cricket :49, Many of the dance classes don't require you to bring along a partner. They rotate the men and women so everyone gets a partner.

6:52 PM

cricket

HopinginHim - She generally is on Wednesdays. She's not been in as much as the school she worked at closed down so she's been working several part time jobs and not available as much as before

6:53 PM

HopinginHim

Cricket - True. The practicing is essential! Some of my fondest memories of growing up are my mom and dad (my dad is now gone) moving all the furniture in the living room to practice. Lovingly swirling away and laughing. It was precious! I also spent a lot of time in my dad’s arms on the dance floor growing up.

6:53 PM

Bluesky

HopinginHim what a nice memory.

6:53 PM

brin

HopinginHim :53, How sweet!

6:55 PM

cricket

brin - I really had a great time talking to this friend. I will say that I felt sorry for her when she and her family lived here. My mil told me things her H did. He left her to do lists every day and would call her every day to check to see what she'd accomplished so far. He'd make fun of her in front of us, etc. etc. I am sure she is much happier alone as she said she is. She has become very successful in her career and has a great relationship with her kids who are married with teenage kids of their own.

6:55 PM

HopinginHim

Bluesky and Brin - yes. I was very blessed. My parents had a loving marriage of 60 years. I miss my father very much but I look forward to the day when I will once again be with him. I know he would be pleased if I took up the ballroom dancing. I really am going to have to look into it. Unfortunately, I live in a smaller town and there are not a lot of options. Nonetheless.

6:55 PM

brin

cricket :55, Wow - how sad that he treated her that way. Inhumane

6:56 PM

Bluesky

cricket he sounds controlling and abusive

6:56 PM

cricket

HopinginHim - My grandparents were really good dancers, ballroom. I remember watching them dance too as a kid. The floor would clear when they danced. My grandmother was 4'11 and my grandfather 5'2" so they were a darling couple that moved together as one. Wonderful memories.

6:58 PM

brin

cricket :57, That's so cool. I love watching couple who dance well.

6:58 PM

HopinginHim

Cricket - how beautiful! It is so beautiful to watch. The couple really needs to work together as a team. I have to admit there were a few "you are on my toe" moments too!

6:58 PM

cricket

Bluesky / brin - Yes it was very sad to see and it was wonderful that I found her through internet searches and connected. I found her son who gave her my phone # and she called today. We are going to get together. It's no wonder her H has been married 4 times since her, divorce 3 and considering a 4th divorce. He never learned.

6:58 PM

Bluesky

cricket they just don't want to learn.

6:59 PM

cricket

HopinginHim - My grandparents were the same, married over 50 yrs, married until my grandfather died and he always worshiped her. My grandfather would bring flowers for no reason, leave love notes, etc. I remember telling my grandmother that I wanted a marriage like hers. She took me aside and said, "Honey, there were difficult times too, it was not all rosy, but we worked at it."

6:59 PM

brin

cricket :58, It seems that people can be so (I hate to say this) dumb. They think it's too hard or too painful to deal with their issues, yet the pain becomes much more prolonged and severe because they don't deal with the pain/issues.

7:00 PM

HopinginHim

Cricket - I grew up doing ballet and modern dance with everything else thrown in. Now that I am approaching 50 I don't think my body will stand classic ballet any more. Somehow Ballroom just seems less formal and more forgiving. I'm sure I will find out I am WRONG! :)

7:00 PM

Bluesky

brin that is exactly what the book I mentioned earlier is about.

7:01 PM

cricket

brin - Yes this man is now 71 yrs old, thinking about divorcing current (5th) wife. He still talks to his first wife, my friend. She's given him advice, especially about giving up this wife at this stage of life.

7:02 PM

brin

Bluesky :00, Cool. Yes, it's also in 12-step recovery programs, 1 of which I am involved in.

7:02 PM

cricket

HopinginHim - I can tell you, I was a police officer my whole career so I've also worked out, jogged, etc. We don't bounce back as quickly but we can still accomplish a lot more than we think.

7:02 PM

brin

cricket :01, You mean your friend is advising him to not divorce his current wife?

7:02 PM

HopinginHim

Cricket - Your grandmother was very wise. Yes. I very much believe that every marriage is work. It takes compromise, sacrifice and effort and patience. What an incredible legacy your grandparents left you.

7:03 PM

Bluesky

Well ladies, I am going to bug out. It was so nice to have several people tonight. See you tomorrow night.

7:03 PM

cricket

brin - YES. She's telling him that this woman is good to him and he needs and encouraging him to appreciate her. She doesn't not want to live like she had before.

7:03 PM

brin

cricket :03. Awesome.

7:03 PM

brin

All, I have to go too. Need to give some attention to my puppy

7:03 PM

cricket

HopinginHim - Yes they were very special people. When my Dad threw us out on the street, my grandparents sold their home and moved to my community to help my Mom raise us. They were awesome.

7:04 PM

brin

Have a great weekend. Talk to you Sunday...

7:04 PM

HopinginHim

Cricket - As a police officer, I am sure you must be very fit. I am a lawyer. I pretty much sit on my backside every day! :) Thus the need for a little more exercise! :) I had been a runner but sustained an injury so am taking things a little slow trying to recover.

7:04 PM

cricket

brin - They seem to have a friendship through the years.

7:04 PM

HopinginHim

Cricket - I wish I could have met your grandparents. They sound like incredible people!!!!

7:05 PM

brin

cricket :04, That's great. At least he's got a connection to good advice, if he'd only take it :)

7:05 PM

brin

Good night all.

7:05 PM

cricket

HopinginHim - Okay, it may take a little work to get back into condition, but you can do it. I did switch to a treadmill rather than running on the street as friends began having problems with knees, hips, etc. I don't run as hard as I used to but I do a slow jog and I'm now over 60.

7:05 PM

Bluesky

Goodnight ladies.

7:06 PM

cricket

HopinginHim - My grandparents were incredible. So was my Mom and I was so blessed to have them.

7:07 PM

HopinginHim

Cricket - I have a treadmill too. I have to work up to running, but will. I love to run!!! (Although my running is most people's slow jog!)

7:07 PM

HopinginHim

Cricket - Thanks for the chat. It was a real treat. Have yourself a lovely evening. My daughter is home. Time to go snuggle and get her to bed!

7:07 PM

cricket

HopinginHim - My Mom never said a bad word about my Dad and trust me she had a lot of reasons to do so. I remember saying I wished she married her high school sweetheart. She said she wouldn't have changed it. That if she had, she wouldn't have had us. I said she'd have had kids and she said, they wouldn't be you. Later she explained when I asked that she'd never badmouth my Dad as he was part of us and we part of him. She was incredible

7:08 PM

cricket

HopinginHim - Glad you joined us. Have a nice evening. Make that list of things and start working on those dreams that were set aside. Trust me our H's notice too but it is part of what we need for our healing.

7:08 PM

HopinginHim

Cricket - I think I would love to meet your mom too. You have a lovely history. What an incredible blessing. Obviously they have helped to make you all that you are!

7:09 PM

HopinginHim

Cricket - goodnight!

 

 

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6:48 PM

HopinginHim

Bluesky - I am laughing at that one. When we first met, he actually came to one of my dance recitals. He was so proud. He can't dance worth a bean!!!

6:48 PM

Bluesky

HopinginHim but it shows him you are moving forward with your life and getting hobbies.

 

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I have been S from my H for 2 years. We have 3 children, S8, S13, and D16.
I have been Separated from my Husband for 2 years. We have 3 children, Son age 8, Son age 13, Daughter age 16.
  OW = Other Woman   AW  = Adulteress Woman   W  = Wife   OP = other person
  OM  = Other Man   AM  = Adulteress Man   H  = Husband   LBS = Left behind spouse
  D = divorce or daughter   S = son or sister or separated   XW  = ex-wife   GF = Girl Friend
  DIL = daughter-in-law   SIL = Sister-in-law or Son-in-law   XH  = ex-husband   BF = Boy Friend
  MIL = mother-in-law   MLC = Midlife Crisis   PG = Praise God   CS = Child Support
  FIL = father-in-law   MLD = Midlife Dimensions Ministry   PTL = Praise the Lord   ED = Erectile Dysfunction
  w/ = with   w/e = weekend   b/c = because   
  w/o = without   BRB / be right back   LOL / laughing out loud