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Easter - 4/8/12

6:14 PM

buttons

dani - that's nice, it's just H and I and he's asleep... as I was doing things I realized that although our children live in the house we've become disconnected... partly because H feels that I "mother' them too much

6:18 PM

dani

buttons, I know that when my h came home, I needed to transfer my attention to him. I mothered/nurtured my kids a lot and I realized I needed to lighten up on them and make him "king of the castle". It was a little adjustment for me.

 


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March 08, 2012 / Sunday 6-7 pm PST / CR#1

6:01 PM

Joey

Welcome everyone!!!! Happy Easter!!!! Holy Spirit we invite You to lead guide and direct our time together tonight!!!!

6:02 PM

Joey

Hi Dogwood, Happy Easter!!! How are you tonight?

6:02 PM

dogwood

Joey, I am glad that the room is now open; it gave me an unavailable msg earlier. Now it is time. Happy Easter to you Joey

6:03 PM

Joey

dogwood I got the same thing. if you log in early it will tell you that.

6:04 PM

Joey

dogwood have you had a good day?

6:04 PM

dogwood

Joey how is your Easter day? I had a very good week attended several Maundy Thursday and Good Friday services which all helped me significantly in reflection of Jesus sharing suffering for us, and we share His suffering in this life and struggle as well.

6:05 PM

Joey

Hi Buttons!!!!! Happy Easter!!!!

6:05 PM

challenger3

good evening and Happy Easter everyone!

6:05 PM

Joey

Hi Challenger!!!! Happy Easter!!!!

6:05 PM

buttons

Happy Easter to you too Joey !!!

6:05 PM

buttons

All Dinner is ready, just H and I and he's asleep because he's been fighting a headache all day

6:05 PM

Joey

dogwood I watched Passion of the Christ Fri. to help check myself, it’s been a good weekend!

6:05 PM

buttons

All was not too bad off to be on computer and grinning away for a while though

6:06 PM

Joey

buttons did ok until today, ate my whole full size snicker choc bunny this evening.

6:07 PM

buttons

Joey good for you... I've been doing pretty good too... had some chips and such but trying to pay more attention to what I'm eating

6:07 PM

buttons

Joey full size with those isn't That big so... hehehe

6:07 PM

challenger3

All had a great weekend overall until about 3 p.m. today.   Starting feeling bad, met up with H so he could spend time with kids-he was very friendly again and a little relaxed-now missing all of them!

6:08 PM

dogwood

Joey, Was very busy on Sat. preparing for the Easter dinner for my daughter and son in law coming over today. I told h about their coming, and he did not say anything, was very distant to me and went on his own night activities, did not help me at all.   We had a pleasant luncheon together. after my d and sil left later this pm, h also left saying he wanted to go out-- his regular behavior and did not surprise me, however, left me a bit sad again.

6:08 PM

buttons

Joey right now I'm hungry but don't want to eat without H but can't wait too long....

6:08 PM

Joey

buttons still need to do better though. That bunny was probably about 6-8" choc, nuts and caramel!

6:09 PM

buttons

Joey :) it's alright, just don't let it drag you down, pick up and move forward, enjoy it and remember enjoying it... don't feel regret or it isn't worth it!

6:09 PM

dogwood

buttons are you waiting for your h coming home from work?  

6:09 PM

Joey

dogwood it’s ok, roll with the behavior and be the stable one, just don't get on his roller coaster.

6:09 PM

Joey

Hi Dani and Gee!!!!

6:09 PM

geebo2b

Hi Joey

6:09 PM

geebo2b

Blessings all

6:10 PM

Joey

buttons actually it made me realize I don't miss candy bars that much!!!! :)

6:10 PM

buttons

challenger3 relaxed and friendly isn't bad, appreciate the small things (as still reminded me earlier)

6:10 PM

geebo2b

Is Cricket still in Ireland??

6:10 PM

geebo2b

how fun

6:10 PM

buttons

dogwood sorry to hear H was distant but that would not be unusual so... find something to do to enjoy the peace

6:10 PM

Joey

geebo2b she's back!!!

6:10 PM

challenger3

Good evening Dani

6:10 PM

dogwood

Joey Yes, thanks for the advice, even today when my daughter asks me privately if h behavior still the same and how I was holding on to it.   I know it is very hard to explain to her... but still wait on the Lord and ignore h’s behavior

6:10 PM

geebo2b

does she type with an Irish accent now - lol

6:11 PM

buttons

Joey yeah, there are a few chocolate bars I truly enjoy so I am trying hard to get just those and really enjoy eating them rather than eating something for the sake of eating it... if you are going to "blow it" may as well enjoy it

6:11 PM

Joey

dogwood Atta girl and remember you really don't have to give an answer.

6:11 PM

geebo2b

Well..how r all me little leprechauns?

6:11 PM

Joey

geebo2b LOL!!!!

6:12 PM

buttons

geebo2b hey how's it going?

6:12 PM

buttons

hi dani how are you?

6:12 PM

dani

Hi all, how are you doing?? Catching up on the reading....sounds like it has been a good and challenging day for several!

6:12 PM

dogwood

buttons Yes, I know he is in extreme turmoil inside of himself, and struggle, but it is out of my control... I can't help him, only to protect myself from feeling rejected each time.

6:12 PM

buttons

hey bluesky how are you?

6:12 PM

Joey

buttons I've moved to something I didn't like and that’s dark choc. so I just buy Hersey Kisses. Can only take a few of those at a time!

6:12 PM

geebo2b

buttons Things are ok..today was beautiful..had a lovely Messianic Seder this past Friday night..absolutely beautiful (it's Passover)

6:13 PM

Joey

Hi Bg2012walk! Happy Easter

6:13 PM

dani

Hi Buttons, doing good. had 21 people for dinner....they just kept coming!!!....and I'm tired and full!....it was good though.

6:13 PM

bg2012walk

Joey Thanks I had a good day with family.

6:13 PM

Joey

dani sounds like a great Easter!!!!

6:13 PM

dani

Hi bg2012walk....how are you this evening?

6:13 PM

geebo2b

buttons and today was a beautiful Day of celebration of the Lord's resurrection

6:13 PM

challenger3

buttons, yeah I do enjoy it when it happens and it has been happening more often than not. He is more chatty with me and friendly. He even told me about all the comp time that he is getting at work and that he is taking Cardinals first home game off. He told me that he and some friends are going to find a place to watch the game versus going as he cannot afford the ticket. I think he would have stayed longer and talked with me but D12 was getting in the middle of it.

6:13 PM

buttons

dogwood @09 no my H is home, he has had a headache all day, lay down about an hour and half ago and fell asleep about an hour ago...

6:14 PM

challenger3

buttons, I am having a migraine myself.

6:14 PM

dogwood

dani WOW! are you having your whole family nearby? how fortunately!

6:14 PM

bg2012walk

dani I am good.

6:14 PM

challenger3

dani, sounds wonderful but lots of work!

6:14 PM

challenger3

BG2012 Hello and Happy Easter

6:14 PM

buttons

dani that's nice, it's just H and I and he's asleep... as I was doing things I realized that although our children live in the house we've become disconnected... partly because H feels that I "mother' them too much

6:14 PM

dogwood

buttons Oh1 I understand now. perhaps you can have a bit of something now and save the full dinner with him together later.

6:15 PM

buttons

Joey mmm... I love dark chocolate but not too dark!!!

6:16 PM

buttons

dogwood true enough but it's after 6 here already and I don't want to wait too long... will give it a bit longer though and try rousing him a bit again

6:16 PM

geebo2b

buttons mmmm dark chocolate supposed to be good for helping to alleviate depression..I eat a lot of sugarless dark chocolate from Trader Joe's

6:16 PM

dani

dogwood, my kids are 2 and 5 hours away, and they came with their men, and then local friends and mother in law. I love having them all here!

6:16 PM

buttons

geebo2b not sure about the sugarless but not as dark as 70% somewhere near there though

6:16 PM

Joey

buttons I didn't so I thought that would work. but now I like it, it’s like a semi dark choc. purple wrapper.

6:17 PM

buttons

Joey ah... yum... my favorite is Dove chocolate, esp. dark

6:17 PM

geebo2b

buttons yes the 70% or higher cacao is the best for depression..but the sugarless only comes at 50% cacao

6:17 PM

buttons

Joey it's amazing what we'll get used to though hey

6:17 PM

buttons

geebo2b ah, don't like it too dark as it tastes more like dirt or something :)

6:18 PM

Joey

geebo2b trader joe rocks. love the CA. garlic powder from Trader Joes.

6:18 PM

geebo2b

buttons it's a trade off for me..as I don't want too much sugar..so I have to use the 50% cacao

6:18 PM

geebo2b

buttons lol..I understand.. I am used to it

6:18 PM

dani

buttons, I know that when my h came home, I needed to transfer my attention to him. I mothered/nurtured my kids a lot and I realized I needed to lighten up on them and make him "king of the castle". It was a little adjustment for me.

6:18 PM

bg2012walk

Joey My xH and D had a lengthy talk on Thursday. He wanted to know why she did not think he was trustworthy. D shared with him and she said he seemed genuinely surprised. D asked him if he had ever apologized to me for his affair and the pain he caused us. He said he had but he has never done this. He was concerned because D had been told a comment the OW had made about her. All he wanted was to sit down with Ow, D and himself to "work at the issue".

6:18 PM

buttons

geebo2b glad you had a good day

6:18 PM

Joey

buttons like Gee says it has some health benefits when not abused.

6:19 PM

dogwood

dani That is so very nice. I love that too, except H is now so disconnected with any of our friends, he would not agree with me if I invited any of them, even his own brother and his family. we only have a daughter and sil in town , our son and his family is too far away beyond the driving distance. It is good enough that h stayed at the Easter dinner when our daughter and her husband joined us. although h did not go to the church with us. he has stopped going to church for 20 some years.

6:19 PM

geebo2b

Joey Yes TJ's rocks! I do most of my shopping there and use about 95%+ organics..(food bill is higher) but I am doing everything I can to offset depression as I don't have health insurance and so don't get medication for it

6:19 PM

buttons

dani thing is I don't know where things stand with H, he's here as much because he returned injured both times and is saving money to start businesses, but then if he really truly wanted to go wouldn't he have gone? I just don't know and I get confused and frustrated

6:20 PM

bg2012walk

challenger3 Hi how are you?

6:20 PM

geebo2b

buttons it was a beautiful sunny day and the celebration of the Lord's resurrection which reminds me there is so much hope for us all in all of our situations despite the warfare many of us have faced for so long

6:20 PM

dani

dogwood. my h has been home about 8 years now and it took a LONG time to reconnect with friends and feel social again. Much patience!

6:20 PM

Joey

bg2012walk this is good that your D is getting to let some things out in the open and not hold them in, let God handle your H's motives in this :)

6:21 PM

Joey

geebo2b I hear ya!!!!! Plus you’re getting good stuff in your body!

6:21 PM

buttons

geebo2b Joey a parent made me chocolate cayenne cookies at Christmas (to go with wine, which I don't drink)... they were SO tasty!

6:22 PM

dogwood

dani GREAT to know that your marriage has been restored!   that is another very good reason to celebrate Easter, as God brought your marriage alive again

6:22 PM

geebo2b

OH yes the cayenne is also good against depression.. I use that too

6:22 PM

dani

bg2012walk....I agree with Joey. It seems they can say some of those things that need to be said when we can't say them. I am so sorry you have to watch her go through this. The pain we feel is so much more intensified when we watch our children in pain too.

6:23 PM

Joey

buttons Jim always said it good if they can stay in home but you have to learn to let go and let God but still be able to function in what you need to do daily.

6:23 PM

geebo2b

and it tastes really good with chocolate (like in the movie I loved CHOCOLAT)

6:23 PM

bg2012walk

Joey I am. My D is very wise and a very strong Christian. She told him she could never trust him again. D said he really listened to her without losing his cool.   He wanted to make sure that D would still allow him to see grandchildren. My other D tells her the OW is very nice. XH says he is trying to learn from his mistakes. They have been in counseling and do a lot of traveling.

6:24 PM

buttons

Joey I realize that it gets hard sometimes though because H still wants to be intimate and yet at times he'll throw out that he can't wait to leave, that he just hasn't filed the d yet and so then I feel used and confused

6:24 PM

dani

dogwood....amen! and I used to remind myself that if God can resurrect a "dead" Jesus, He can resurrect a dead relationship.   People at the cross had lost hope....and yet they did not know the blessings and new life that was ahead!

6:25 PM

geebo2b

dani amen dani

6:25 PM

bg2012walk

Joey OW and xH have been in counseling so they can work on their issues.

6:26 PM

Joey

all, a very solid Christian woman in one of the facebook groups all week fasted and prayed for others request. One thing she said God told her was. Standers are asking me to change their spouses but not them. The second thing was that God has to be 1st and the 1st love of our lives.

6:26 PM

dani

All....I just need to throw in my vote for chocolate...the darker the better....for just about anything that ails a person!

6:26 PM

bg2012walk

dani My D is no longer in pain. It has been too long and she has worked on all these issues herself.   It was the first time xH knew there was a problem and reached out to her.

6:26 PM

buttons

geebo2b CHOCOLAT is a great movie... parent said the cookies tasted good with wine but I don't drink at all so she gave me all the cookies she's made (just 6 though :( ) not enough

6:26 PM

challenger3

bg2012, I am not feeling well tonight. Dropped kids off at 3 with H and we had a nice conversation etc but now I am missing all of them a lot. Not having a terrible night just not a great night!

6:27 PM

geebo2b

buttons I hear that..6 cookies is never enough LOL

6:27 PM

Joey

bg2012walk they may be going to counseling but I just say but what is God doing?

6:27 PM

geebo2b

are never enough what happened to my English ?

6:27 PM

bg2012walk

challenger3 I know what you mean. I get lonely especially as I get older.

6:27 PM

dogwood

dani yours is such an encouragement, I will remember what you said.   Yes, when looking at the cross, I do lose my hope, h and our relationship is truly dead as far as h is concerned (although it is still very much alive with me); and I can't change him or his feeling or thinking; but the "resurrection"! is     unthinkable miracle far beyond any human reasoning.

6:28 PM

Joey

challenger3 ((((Challenger))))) hope you feel better!!!

6:28 PM

challenger3

Thanks Joey, I think it is a migraine and exhaustion! Having trouble sleeping lately!

6:28 PM

bg2012walk

Joey I went to Easter sunrise service. Afterwards I sat in my car and began to write xH. I very close friend saw me. When I explained I just needed to write him she said "Let God handle it."

6:29 PM

Joey

bg2012walk wise friend!! :)

6:29 PM

buttons

challenger3 hugs... I know the feeling, usually spend holidays with family and the kids didn't even say a thing to me today, my dad called but the phone was dying and my aunt called but she always apologizes for calling and makes me feel bad that I didn't first (I can control how I feel I know but I end up feeling bad most times)

6:29 PM

dani

Challenger...I am saying an extra prayer for you tonight.

6:30 PM

dogwood

challenger3 are you alone at home now? I can relate to that feeling after the festival and company gone and being left alone, the feeling of being rejected by someone whom you have trusted in the marriage... Chat is a great place to come on holidays

6:30 PM

buttons

geebo2 yeah, esp. with these ones, not usually a spicy food person but chocolate and cayenne is yummy

6:30 PM

challenger3

Dani, My H is acting very kind and I can see that it is not fake.   No movement in the relationship but friendly, relaxed with no real anger anymore and this has been going on for about a month now. This week is another date with court issues. Did your H change before he came home? I am not trying to compare just curious that's all if any of this is a good sign.

6:30 PM

challenger3

dani, thank you!

6:31 PM

geebo2b

Dani Joey all..I only get here on chat occasionally and I don't seem to keep up with events..but has there been recently a commitment to fasting and prayer in some measure as a group recently?? I know a few years back we kind of loosely had times of group fasting and prayer to see breakthroughs , especially in overly stubborn situations

6:31 PM

bg2012walk

challenger3 I hated the empty feeling when the children were gone. Had to focus on the blessings the Lord had given me.

6:31 PM

challenger3

Dogwood, yes I am and that is why I am here. I have been handling all of this so much better lately but tonight it is bothering me.

6:31 PM

dani

Challenger3...some changes before, some changes after....it was a long, long road home.

6:31 PM

buttons

geebo2b is never/are never whatever... hehehe

6:32 PM

Joey

geebo2b Up until here recently I would fast a few days a week weekly. I need to get back to it!!!

6:32 PM

geebo2b

geebo2b just wondering if maybe we could plan another time of concentrated prayer and fasting for the group..fasting in whatever way each person can commit to..and then a really concentrated prayer focus

6:32 PM

dogwood

challenger3 I think you will be recharged after the Chat. have a great night of sleep

6:33 PM

geebo2b

Joey yes..it is hard for me because of some health issues and work schedule..but I really want to find a measure of it and get back to some focused fasting and prayer and see some breakthroughs

6:33 PM

buttons

dani did he talk about leaving after he returned?

6:33 PM

geebo2b

Breakthroughs in other areas of my life and in the needs of the group here

6:34 PM

challenger3

dani, yeah I am sure it was. I don't think he is anyway ready but he either had just woken up or he was sad when he first called me today. He was a little funny because I send him pics of things with the kids.   The kids dressed up for Easter mass so afterwards, I went to a friend’s yard and took pictures. He was inquisitive as to where we were at etc. Again strange behavior!

6:34 PM

Joey

geebo2b back in 2005 I did a corp. fast for the whole month of Feb. from 6-6. God moved in ways I was asking or looking for. But positive ways in mine and my SIL's relationship. that has since stopped due to the current AW but still at that time God moved on my behalf!!!

6:35 PM

challenger3

dogwood, I love chat so I am already feeling recharged and I cannot wait to get to sleep tonight.

6:35 PM

Joey

geebo2b you know it can be things other than food. Actually fasting is how I gave up soda back in Oct. of last year.

6:36 PM

challenger3

bg2012walk, I am sure to see my blessings every day. Thanks for the advice

6:36 PM

dogwood

geebo2b Yes, breakthrough is what I need too.

6:37 PM

dani

buttons, there was over a year that he "returned" but still had his own place....and there was not really a commitment to being home for all that time. So when he FINALLY moved home, I believe it was because he had his feet in both worlds for such a long time. There were definitely times during that year where I didn't think he would actually be home.

6:37 PM

geebo2b

dogwood Yes I could find a fast that the Lord would accept I am sure

6:37 PM

buttons

ALL I hate thinking that dinner is sitting getting cold but I don't want to eat yet and give H a chance to wake up to eat... we didn't really eat much today-- breakfast around 10:30 and popcorn and that's it... part of his headache could be lack of food, at least in the latter part of the day... sigh/ugh

6:38 PM

geebo2b

dogwood I know many of us here have rehashed our situations because we haven't seen breakthroughs..and talk only goes so far..maybe some concentrated intercessory prayer and fasting can 'dislodge a few things'?

6:38 PM

Joey

buttons that’s a hard call especially if he needs sleep.

6:38 PM

buttons

dani yeah, there is less mention of leaving but it is still a very present option in his mind, both times he's returned have not really been truly because he wants to (although the second time he had said he was wanting to come home)

6:38 PM

buttons

Joey it really is but food will be important too!

6:39 PM

buttons

Joey will give it a bit longer

6:39 PM

challenger3

Geebo2b, I can say that when I fast that I see lots of great things happen. I am not sure that I pray and read the Bible enough though! Anyway, I have been fasting off of beer and wine for almost a year now. I refuse to drink it until H comes back as it was something that I did every night for a while. Then from time to time I take away food and caffeine. Remember the LORD is after your intentions and if you crave it can you stay away from it.

6:39 PM

dani

Buttons...I would feel the same way. More important to share the meal together than to eat hot food alone!!

6:40 PM

Joey

Button, Dani has a good point! :)

6:40 PM

challenger3

All, I think the enemy and H have both been trying to test my stand and my new attitude lately. H for the first time talked about hanging with friends and letting OWs daughter cut sons hair. I never got upset with him and just said Ok and well have fun etc. I have noticed that lately more men have been paying attention to me and flirting. I am not standoffish but I am not flirting back! UGHH

6:40 PM

buttons

Joey dani you are right that is what I feel too, I just don't want to let him sleep too long or eat too late

6:41 PM

geebo2b

challenger3 I am sure I can find something I   have felt for a long time that It is time to press in a bit

6:43 PM

Joey

challenger3 that’s a very fine line to stay away from if your truly standing. just be careful. A stander friend has found herself emotionally attached to someone she never meant to be in that place.

6:43 PM

challenger3

geebo2b, have you contacted your doctor for their opinion as they may be able to help. I only ate fruit and caffeine for 3 days last week and had 2 days of just water and crackers. It was a great feeling.

6:44 PM

buttons

ALL I am going to head off, I am SO grateful for 4 days off and for the fact that H got 3 days off... yes, we did papers two of those and will do them tomorrow too but H was able to relax all weekend and I gave myself permission to do things around the house rather than worry about school and planning... needed that break and to regain control of things outside in the yard... it's been a good weekend overall... going to try and rouse H a bit

6:44 PM

challenger3

Joey, Yeah that is what I am saying. These are men that I don't know etc. Just out and about. There is someone on my street that helps with things around my house.   We are friends but I know he likes me and flirts a lot. Instead of asking him to help with the house this time I am asking my brother.  

6:44 PM

dogwood

buttons glad to hear that you had a wonderful time off

6:44 PM

Joey

buttons have a good night button!!!

6:45 PM

challenger3

buttons, good night!

6:45 PM

dani

Challenger3...there was a part of me that felt like I needed to know how to flirt....wanted to save it for my husband....but first needed to learn how. I was never a flirter. Then I realized that was part of what my h loves in our relationship. However, I agree with Joey. It is putting ourselves out there for temptation. Practice on him if he lets you!!!

6:45 PM

buttons

Joey dani thanks for your help, support...

6:45 PM

buttons

challenger3 night take care and know God is with you even when you feel alone

6:45 PM

challenger3

dani, I try to flirt with him as much as possible. I know how to flirt so I am actually saving it for my H.

6:46 PM

Joey

challenger3 dani that’s something I don't think I know how to do is flirt :(

6:46 PM

bg2012walk

challenger3 Are you still married?

6:46 PM

challenger3

dani, I always compliment on how he looks before he goes to work-if he drops kids off here. I always say good things to him. I am holding back a little though because I don't want him to be pushed away or sound needy!

6:47 PM

challenger3

bg2012, yes I am still married but he left in Jan 2011. We are in the middle of the divorce/custody issues right now. I could be divorced this 18th if the meeting this Thursday goes well

6:47 PM

dani

Challenger3...;) Good job!

6:48 PM

challenger3

bg2012, I am not hoping that it goes well but I do believe that he needs this divorce and Missouri wants divorces done within 6 months so there is not much I can do. I have made it known to everyone that I do not want the divorce but here if someone wants out they can get out! All you can do is defend yourself and push the timelines!

6:48 PM

challenger3

dani, thanks!

6:49 PM

Joey

challenger3 wow 6 months!!!!

6:49 PM

challenger3

dani, I am also dressed up most times that I see him.   I know that he likes my assets-Hehe- so I tend to accentuate them when I know I am going to see him. I noticed him checking me out the other day and I was wearing an outfit he bought me. He had a hard time looking at me when he left.

6:50 PM

bg2012walk

All Hope everyone has a good day tomorrow. Please continue to pray for my best friend's granddaughter.   She is 8 weeks old and diagnosed with cancer. Doctor reports have been positive but still more test.

6:50 PM

challenger3

Joey, yeah that is what I said too. Luckily, the LORD led me to a better lawyer than the first one that I had so things are going my way right now. I am sure with the first lawyer I would be divorced with barely anything. She was awful!

6:50 PM

Joey

challenger3 attcha girl!!!!!

6:50 PM

dani

Joey, I really didn't know how to flirt. I was always "nice, sweet, responsible, and nurturing"....but not flirty. I really had to watch others and learn. There used to be a TLC show on where they were "coaching" first dates for people that didn't date much and I took a lot of cues from that.   Nothing sleazy...just realizing what behaviors would show my h I was interested in him.

6:51 PM

challenger3

bg2012, she will be in my prayers along with you!

6:51 PM

dani

bg2012walk...oh, I am so sorry to hear about her granddaughter.   I will pray. What a heart breaking thing.

6:52 PM

Joey

dani I think women that it’s just "ooossshhhesss" off of bothers me. probably bc I feel like I can't do it.

6:54 PM

Joey

ALL, we need to be mindful of the time. We have about 6 minutes of chat left for tonight.

6:56 PM

challenger3

Joey, thanks but not sure that it is working!

6:57 PM

Joey

challenger3 they tuck those little things back into the back of their mind and replay them. :)

6:57 PM

dani

Joey...I agree. Like I say...it did not come naturally....had to learn it.....and I had to give myself permission to learn. I read and re-read the story of Esther....was it Esther??...my brain is going!!!... where she took a whole year to fix herself up before being brought before her husband to plead her case for her people. There was a purpose in preparing herself to be beautiful and appealing and that gave me Godly motivation to do the same in my relationship.

6:58 PM

Joey

dani I don't have cable or satellite to get any of those shows. But I can people watch. :)

6:58 PM

challenger3

Joey, I hope so.

6:58 PM

Joey

Happy Easter Cricket!!!

6:59 PM

challenger3

Happy Easter Cricket!

6:59 PM

dani

Hi Cricket...how are you??!!...welcome back!

6:59 PM

dogwood

Cricket   happy Easter!

6:59 PM

Cricket

Hi all. I had to pick up a friend from the airport & just got home.   Happy Easter all.  

6:59 PM

Cricket

I wondered if Seth123 joined us tonight.

6:59 PM

Joey

Cricket small group tonight - no Seth!

7:00 PM

dani

Joey, I don't have cable any longer either and can't even remember the name of the show. If I could remember it, we might be able to Google it. I'll see if I can put it out of the recesses of my mind!!

7:01 PM

challenger3

all, I am going to go. Not sure I can make tomorrow night due to things with children. Please pray for me on the 12th as we meet with the Guardian at liem to discuss custody, child support etc. Rough upcoming 2 weeks for me!

7:01 PM

Cricket

Okay - He came in Friday and still struggling. Hadn't heard from him since.   He was still talking about ending it all so do worry about him.

7:01 PM

Joey

dani ok, thanks then maybe I can use that Hula or whatever that site is called to watch it.

7:01 PM

dani

Challenger3...we'll be praying!

7:02 PM

Cricket

Joey - It was Esther who was groomed for over a year and ended up pleading her case for her people including her brother.

7:02 PM

Cricket

challenger3 - We will be praying. Many of us know how difficult this time is.

7:02 PM

Joey

Cricket so he really did come back in. must not have been an April Fools thing then. WOW!!!

7:03 PM

Cricket

Joey = No he did come back. He's from Great Britain and don't think they have April Fools there.   It seems real.

7:03 PM

Joey

challenger3 gottcha covered!!!!

7:04 PM

Joey

Cricket how sad and his parents have no clue!

7:05 PM

Joey

all, I need to run. I've got to send out Sun. School Prayer list and get ready for work tomorrow.

7:05 PM

Cricket

Joey - I tried to get him to tell me what is causing this.   He says not mlc, parents not separated. I asked if it was family, friends, girlfriend, abuse, etc. He just replied with a sad smiley face.

7:05 PM

Joey

sweet sleep everyone!!! Take care and God bless!!!!

7:05 PM

Cricket

Geebo2b - I just saw you were here too. Happy Easter to you too. Have a good week all.

7:05 PM

Joey

Cricket, I'm putting him on my prayer list now!!!!

7:06 PM

Cricket

Joey - Yes I don't know what is going on with him. He asked me to Skype him but I said no that I had to stay in chat Friday and he could share there.

7:07 PM

Cricket

Good night all, have a good week. Hang in there challenger3, you are in our prayers.

7:07 PM

dani

Cricket....you were so right though when you said it is sometimes chemistry. I think the saddest thing is when a person is depressed and they don't know why.....they have no reason to be depressed and yet they are....so how do they put their finger on the thing they need to change.

7:07 PM

Cricket

dani - Sadly is very common in teenagers. I think with their growing, etc. and they tend not to tell anyone.

7:08 PM

Cricket

dani - I worried when I realized I wouldn't be back for chat but then remembered you would be here and knew his story.

7:10 PM

dani

Cricket...I am glad he came back Friday. I pray that he finds hope in our group and/or that God will speak to him through us or someone else.

7:10 PM

dani

Cricket Challenger3, Dogwood, Geebo2b. I need to say good night. Have a blessed week and I will be praying for miracles in our group!   God is able!!!

7:10 PM

Cricket

dani - Yes I was glad he returned. He asked to private message but then didn't share that much.   BUT that is part of what caused me to worry.

7:10 PM

Cricket

ALL - Have a blessed week, good night all.

7:11 PM

dogwood

dani thank you for spending time with us. you are of great help

7:11 PM

dani

Good night all!! Blessings!

7:11 PM

Cricket

dani - I did tell him about Jim and Bill and that he could come in Mondays for "free counseling" that he asked about

7:11 PM

Cricket

Night all.

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6:14 PM

buttons

dani - that's nice, it's just H and I and he's asleep... as I was doing things I realized that although our children live in the house we've become disconnected... partly because H feels that I "mother' them too much

6:18 PM

dani

buttons, I know that when my h came home, I needed to transfer my attention to him. I mothered/nurtured my kids a lot and I realized I needed to lighten up on them and make him "king of the castle". It was a little adjustment for me.

 

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I have been S from my H for 2 years. We have 3 children, S8, S13, and D16.
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